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Old 03-10-2007, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Concord, NC
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I'm a stay-at-home dad and homeschool dad (not many of us) to my 14/11 year old sons.

I was in an accident in '95 that left me to where I could no longer work, so my wife and I switched roles. She teaches middle school science and I'm home with the boys. Even after being in the corporate world before my accident and loving what I did (IT), I've never been so happy. And with my wife being a teacher, we have TONS of wonderful family time, especially in the summers . God couldn't have worked things out better. I really love being there for my boys. I can't think of a more important or fulfilling "job" than raising two wonderful human beings.
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Old 03-10-2007, 09:03 AM
 
Location: Missouri
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My friend's brother stayed at home with his daughter from birth until she went to school, and I think it did the child a world of good. I am a big proponent of children having a stay at home parent; I don't think it really matters if it's the mom or the dad.
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Old 03-10-2007, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Burlington, VT
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I don't have kids yet, but when we do he's going to be the a satay-at-home parent. I couldn't handle stay-at-home parenthood.

Hubby's brother was a stay-at-home Dad for a few years after his son was born. His wife travels a lot for her job, so he went on business trips with her. He said it was hard, but he loved it.
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Old 03-10-2007, 06:44 PM
 
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What are your thoughts on men who choose to be stay-at-home dads? How do you think society views these men (and their wives)? I was an at-home dad for three and a half years and miss it so much. However going back to work was a vacation of sorts.
I think of them as weak. I joke every once in a while with my husband about it. He would never even consider it. I find it to be weird and wouldn't want my husband staying home with the kids. I also find it odd for other men to do it. Very odd.
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Old 03-10-2007, 06:55 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities
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RWFan, why do you find it odd? Do you think there is something wrong (emotionally) with a guy who wants to stay at home with his kids and be a dad full time? I'm seriously curious as to what you think. Thanks so much for your honest post!

Last edited by Hoosier; 03-10-2007 at 06:56 PM.. Reason: typo
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Old 03-10-2007, 09:45 PM
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Location: Central New Mexico
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Is a windsuit a must have for the stay at home dad?
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Old 03-10-2007, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities
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what is a windsuit?
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Old 03-10-2007, 11:24 PM
 
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Admire them. "Society" should, too.

Pampers melt in Maytag dryer, crayons go up 1 drawer higher, rewind Barney for the 16th time ...B'fast 6, naps @ 9 ....There's bubblegum in the baby's hair, sweet potatoes in my lazy chair ...How much smoke can one stove make, the kids won't eat my charcoal cake ...

(BIG LoneStar fan :>)
Thnaks, Travel'r! Love the song; now I know what the lyrics "Pampers melt in Maytag dryer" really are; wasn't sure before!

BOT: I admire anybody willing to stay at home with the kids! Dated an old high school friend a couple of years into my USAF career. We decided we were better off as friends. She married a great guy; he ended up leaving the USAF to be a stay-at-home dad while she stayed in the service; worked out well for them. I also had the privilege of meeting other Air Force "Dependent Husbands", both with and without kids. Military spouse support is mostly geared to female spouses so they had a tougher road. But some belonged to the "wive's club" and were very much welcomed there!
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Old 03-10-2007, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Where the real happy cows reside!
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I think of them as weak. I joke every once in a while with my husband about it. He would never even consider it. I find it to be weird and wouldn't want my husband staying home with the kids. I also find it odd for other men to do it. Very odd.
Well what more did you expect from a Red Wing fan! Just kidding.

It's not a sign of weakness by any means. It shows a great deal of strengh and fortitude. Going against the grain of what society has dictated as the norm, for how many years?

My hubby would gladly stay at home and "wax the Porsche" as he puts it, but he's also like one of these wonderful men on this thread who gladly see no shame staying at home with their kids and being outstanding role models for them.

I just hate those specialist on trends and the like, who give names like The Alpha Female and The Beta Male - oh for crying out loud.

All you Dads that stay at home with the kids keep up the good work (same goes for all those Moms too) and I know we'll all see the benefits later down the road from all your hardwork.
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Old 03-11-2007, 07:29 AM
 
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tetley, good post!!
i thought the woman "lib" movement, of the 70's was trying to diminish stereotypes, and traditional bias's, so if a man looks at a woman, beyond her physical attributes, and appreciates her for being the bread-winner,,and he elects to stay home with the kids,,there is something wrong with that??
in this world, where most (both) parents work, and most kids are in daycare, i think its a breath of fresh air, for one of the spouses, to stay home and raise the kids, raising kids, IS THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB A PARENT CAN HAVE!
if i was a stay at home dad, id be proud of it, id have dinner and a hot bath waiting for my spouse when she got home..
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