Birthday Party Guest Problem

[nuala]

Actually, I was wrong. I wrote that I was sure my daughter would not want to invite a certain girl. I just asked her, and she wants to invite everyone, her whole class, boys and girls, not excluding anyone. Shes' got a bigger heart than her mama assumed...

[joyBeing]

Originally Posted by *Danielle*

Geez...I think that is even worse! My dd would be devastated being the ONLY girl excluded from a party that all the other girls are going to... I think that is just plain cruel.

I'm kind of waivering , in principal, I tend to agree with you! But on the other hand, if you're inviting only the kids your child plays with, what does the number of uninvited kids matter? It's unfortunate this child is left behind. But, you have to invite who you want, since you're paying for the party. It's never the best situation.

My ds gets excluded from plenty of parties. He's a quiet shy boy, with a few close friends. I never make a big deal about it. Life is not always fair. I still stand by either inviting the whole class without exclusions; or otherwise, keeping it low key.

[Mrs.Bewitched]

At my school it's either all or send the invitations yourself in the mail. I agree with that. So if you sent them yourself in the mail, then you do not have to invite that boy.

But if you still feel like you have to, I would definitely do the no drop off.

[charz]

Most teachers insist that every child be invited, so no one is upset about being left out. I would invite every child in the class or none from the class. From our experience, only a few come from the class because the parents get so many party invitations that they ignore all but close friends.