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Old 01-26-2009, 10:15 AM
 
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If you're dealing with a parent who is competitive, negative, and has superior attitude, would you continue having playdates for the sake of your child? Has this happened to you? How do you handle someone like that? Please share....
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Old 01-26-2009, 10:23 AM
 
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If the kids liked each other, I would continue, but would find ways to mess with the mom.
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Old 01-26-2009, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Rogers, Arkansas
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Yes like PP said if the kids liked eachother, I would continue, but maybe try to change my interaction with mom... depending on the age of the kids, maybe we could "babysit" for eachother, so the parents don't actually have to interact much other than picking up/ dropping off. If they kids are too young for that, maybe try to involve the competitive mom in an activity such as knitting or baking together or even play a board game where we are both more or less equal.
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Old 01-26-2009, 10:56 AM
 
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Is the parent aggressive or unkind to my kid? If so, the play dates end. Adults who are cruel to my children do not get to interact with them. If this person is only rude to me, sure, the kids can play together. I can take care of myself.
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Old 01-26-2009, 11:04 AM
 
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I would be careful about what this adult says around the kids...
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Old 01-26-2009, 11:14 AM
 
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If you're dealing with a parent who is competitive, negative, and has superior attitude, would you continue having playdates for the sake of your child? Has this happened to you? How do you handle someone like that? Please share....
Probably not. I think it's as important to me that I like interacting with the parent as much as my child likes interacting with his/her child. When you don't care much for a parent's personality, it's easier to tolerate them if you are all part of a group (e.g., sports team, playgroup, etc.). But if you are expected to have one-on-one playdates, forget it. You need to feel at least respect for a parent to want to spend time with them on a regular basis.
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Old 01-26-2009, 11:18 AM
 
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I would be concerned about what messages my child might get while spending time around an overly competitive family.
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Old 01-26-2009, 11:22 AM
 
Location: In my own little corner... sittin' in Jax FL
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The great thing about being a parent of a young child is that there are so many others around! I'd rather find a person that I get along with too. Chances are the kids will feed off the good spirits that the parents share.

You might try a Meetup.com or Yahoo group in your area. Here in Jacksonville there are tons of mommy & me type groups with a wide array of parenting styles, values, and activities to choose from!
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Old 01-26-2009, 11:43 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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No...I would not...It is just as much of a playdate for me as it is for my kids... THere are just too many other play groups out there...
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Old 01-26-2009, 12:05 PM
 
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If the kids liked each other, I would continue, but would find ways to mess with the mom.
I tried to rep you, but couldn't....thanks for making me laugh today!
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