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PDeverit · 06-24-2009, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by IHOP

How about the test of time???

And those organizations don't have any agenda at all to push!!

Slavery, spousal battery, and segregation have all been around since the beginning of time. Does that make them moral?

nat_at772 · 06-24-2009, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by carlitasway

LMAO, I was spanked and don't have any fetishes. Not that there's anything wrong with that.

Me too. I don't spank my son as much as I was spanked (so far I haven't had to) but I've done it before. I have a ice cream fetish though, I wonder what that means....I'll have to do some research

Leilani Vasquez · 06-24-2009, 02:35 PM

I was spanked as a child....not abused, but spanked, and i turned out just fine.

Arielle12 · 07-23-2009, 03:01 AM

Well my (adopted) Dad would spank my bare bottom and as a child i hated it, i was always very close to him and being the only one who wasn't his biological one i felt things for him i KNOW i wouldn't have done a biological parent. As i grew older (i hate to admit it) but sometimes i played him up just so he would spank my bottom!. From 13 onwards i was suddenly so interested in him..it was funny really, the rest of them wondered why i wanted to spend all my time with "boring Dad" but i did!!, i'de stay with him in his boat and asked to sit on his lap at night (cuddled up to him)-he liked it!!. But yes it might have given me a fetish a bit.

1phwalls · 07-23-2009, 09:29 AM

This is BS, I can't believe you typed those 3 pages, and I feel sorry for anyone who read all of it. Spanking does not cause fetishes of spanking, that is one of the most absurd things I have ever heard - and I'm a social worker, the group of people who tries to explain behaviors. But thanks for amusing me.

scarmig · 07-23-2009, 09:59 AM

If spanking my kids gives them spanking fetishes I wonder what bathing them in warm goat's milk and butter has done...

1phwalls · 07-23-2009, 10:39 AM

Arielle12

So you had a crush on your step dad. Pretty funny. My best friend had a crush on my dad! It was so gross! But she didn't get the pleasure of being spanked by him, all though I'm sure she would have enjoyed it!

blwpyrtv · 03-24-2010, 10:24 PM

It's Not Ridiculous
Posting on ParentsPlace.com from Chloe, July 8, 1996
(SOURCE: http://nospank.net/chloe.htm)

I was whipped frequently as a child, and it caused sensations which I really didn't understand at the time, but I can identify them now.

You see, after a few blows I would feel like I needed to urinate. I would hold it as strong as I could, because I knew that I would get half-killed if I were to wet the bed during a whipping. But the odd part was, after the whipping was over and I could go to the bathroom, I usually didn't need to go after all. I think that my genitals became stimulated by blood flowing to the area being whipped (my buttocks). I mistook this stimulation as a need to urinate.

Of course a whipping isn't direct stimulation, but if the genitals end up being stimulated - it's the same result. I imagine that for some children a paddle would have the same result.

I have never been able to relax and enjoy sex with my fiance, When we are intimate, it's okay and feels good at first, but then all of a sudden it seems like I can't feel anything anymore - this always happens WAY before orgasm, usually even before we begin actual intercourse. It is quite frustrating, as I'm sure you can imagine. A therapist told me, "the body remembers what the mind forgets." I think this is true in my case - I think in the initial stage of arousal, my body anticipates pain and so I am unable to feel pleasure. In case you think this therapist gave gave me this idea, I can assure you that I already thought that to be the case before I went to see her. It just seemed like she expressed it well.

I love my fiance very much - it is very distressing that an act which should bring us both pleasure usually doesn't.

I am sorry if some people think this is too graphic to describe in this forum. This is very difficult for me to write about, but I think parents should be aware of the possible long-term effects of their discipline. This is not a theory - it is my personal experience.

MaryleeII · 03-24-2010, 10:33 PM

Not to hijack this thread, but sometimes punishment does turn into a fetish. I've seen it with my son and school. he'd misbehave, get sent to the office, chewed out, then would admit his misdeed and apologize, then get praised for it---"we're proud of you for admitting your actions. That's a good boy for apologizing...." etc.

Well, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure they were rewarding his misbehavior so he kept doing whatever. Seemed he was forever in trouble, it was so obvious just to get positive reinforcement for coming clean and "admitting it". We finally managed to change schools, this new one doesn't encourage misbehavior by praising the "admit and confess and apologize" phase. Geez, can't they figure that out?

Yes, punishment can become a fetish for the punished!

bellalunatic · 03-24-2010, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by NoTimeToTalk

So you're saying that there's nothing wrong about having a spanking fetish?

:-(

Yep. pretty much, that's it in a nutshell. What's the big freakin' deal here for you? You looking for validation?

Don't spank so that your kid doesn't become *gasp* a spanking deviant?!??? Good grief.

They are a hell of a lot of worse things I would be concerned about being a parent and all...future fetish possibilities are surely not one of them.