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The idea of any girl getting hit, violently, by a father is so abhorrent to me I don't know how to respond except to say that it sickens me.
Where and when I grew up every boy on our street got regularly beaten by their dads. There never was a dearth of reasons to do it; late for school, late for dinner, sass your mother or your teacher, just generally act up, act in short like a boy, the real boy you'd better be or they would disown you. But too much, step over the line from ruffian to rogue and you had a better than ordinary beating coming, if not from your father then from your uncle or your teacher or a neighbor, who the way some fathers saw it had carte blanche when it came to straightening your ass out if he caught you doing something on the street. Everybody on our street got beaten in the name of discipline, in the name of good, Christian child rearing. A spanking, I guess, is one thing, an ass whoopin' another. But what parents who beat their kids regularly for their own good don't realize is the message your sending is that they are too stupid, too incorigible to be reasoned with. Is there any wonder then why that is how they behave? I don't say a parent can't slip. I've smacked my son exactly twice. Once when he got caught shoplifting and another when he said, F*ck you to me. But when he has acted up I sit him down and explain why that is not good behavior, why it is not good for him, for those around him, etc. and surprisingly enough he seems to get it.
The idea of any girl getting hit, violently, by a father is so abhorrent to me I don't know how to respond except to say that it sickens me.
Where and when I grew up every boy on our street got regularly beaten by their dads. There never was a dearth of reasons to do it; late for school, late for dinner, sass your mother or your teacher, just generally act up, act in short like a boy, the real boy you'd better be or they would disown you. But too much, step over the line from ruffian to rogue and you had a better than ordinary beating coming, if not from your father then from your uncle or your teacher or a neighbor, who the way some fathers saw it had carte blanche when it came to straightening your ass out if he caught you doing something on the street. Everybody on our street got beaten in the name of discipline, in the name of good, Christian child rearing. A spanking, I guess, is one thing, an ass whoopin' another. But what parents who beat their kids regularly for their own good don't realize is the message your sending is that they are too stupid, too incorigible to be reasoned with. Is there any wonder then why that is how they behave? I don't say a parent can't slip. I've smacked my son exactly twice. Once when he got caught shoplifting and another when he said, F*ck you to me. But when he has acted up I sit him down and explain why that is not good behavior, why it is not good for him, for those around him, etc. and surprisingly enough he seems to get it.
I would never advocate a smacking or an "ass whoppin." I do believe in spanking though.
Not in this lifetime would a teacher EVER hit a child of mine. As a matter of fact, when my son was in high school, I was waiting for him to finish football practice and I saw the "line coach" grab him by the helmet on the facemask part and shake his head back and forth while he was yelling at him. I waited until practice was over and as gthe line coach was walking into the building, I grabbed his arm and told him if he ever touched my son again like that I would have his job. I was a single Mom at the time raising my son alone and his behavior towards my son was not acceptable. I told this a-hole of a coach that I didn't hit my son, nor did I grab him like he just did and would be damned if anyone else would.
Well, little did I know half the team heard me tear this guy a new one and I was their new bestest friend ever. God, I was pretty embarrassed when I found out that they did hear me. Anyhow, turns out this coach had a problem with booze...never should have been teaching anyone anything.
Yeah, I believe the boy was telling his mother a lie, which is a problem itself. Schools here still paddle but NO teacher would ever lay their hands on a student....period!!!!
I am looking for some advice on how to handle a situation about my son saying his teacher smacked him in the face.
They are still hitting kids in school? YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING!!!! Whether being slapped or paddled, if this existed in the schools where my children attended, SERIOUSLY, I would be homeschooling my kids. I would never put my children in the hands of such ignorant people to educate them. Back to your question on what you should do and I can tell you exactly what I would do.... I would walk into the classroom and give her a nice slap back and ask her how it feels to be humiliated? I was abused back in the 70's by teachers all my life and I would never allow this to happen to my children. Not in a million years.
PS For those who do believe in spankings, you really should read some book on the long term negative affects this has on children. You will never regain that respect from your children that you had lost when you hit them. NEVER. I know from experience. In the meantime, here is an article for all to read.... http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9708/14/nfm.spanking/
You don't walk into a classroom to slap a teacher based on the word of a kid. You find out the facts first, you know, before you're charged with assault.
Get over this "loss of respect" from your children because you spanked them. Spanking is not abuse.
They are still hitting kids in school? YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING!!!! Whether being slapped or paddled, if this existed in the schools where my children attended, SERIOUSLY, I would be homeschooling my kids. I would never put my children in the hands of such ignorant people to educate them. Back to your question on what you should do and I can tell you exactly what I would do.... I would walk into the classroom and give her a nice slap back and ask her how it feels to be humiliated? I was abused back in the 70's by teachers all my life and I would never allow this to happen to my children. Not in a million years.
PS For those who do believe in spankings, you really should read some book on the long term negative affects this has on children. You will never regain that respect from your children that you had lost when you hit them. NEVER. I know from experience. In the meantime, here is an article for all to read.... CNN - Study: Spanking kids leads to long-term bad behavior - August 14, 1997
In this day and age if you were to do that without first discussing what actually happened you might find youself sitting in a jail cell. It's called assault.
Let's see all of my 5 kids have at one time or another gotten their little tush's busted for misbehaving and there is not a loss of respect. No wonder alot of kids today are brats and don't understand the concept of proper behaviour.
I can't believe more people didn't suggest questions to ask the child. Yes, how old, what happened, why does he think it happened, was he having trouble in school work already and looking for mom's support, has he ever had issues before, has the teacher had issues before, what do his peers think of the teacher, does he have peers/friends?, can she ask other parents if they've heard similar stories, or other teachers?
I don't think you just accuse a teacher based on one child's unverified story. I have seen a few times where the kid was looking to get the focus off of them. That being said, any kid could cause an adult to loose their temper once in a while, teacher or not. I am not saying it's right but we do not live in a "nonviolent" world and parents who think teachers should all be perfect are dreaming.
You don't walk into a classroom to slap a teacher based on the word of a kid. You find out the facts first, you know, before you're charged with assault.
Get over this "loss of respect" from your children because you spanked them. Spanking is not abuse.
Uh, no kidding you find out the facts first. I don't need to get over the "loss of respect". You need to face the truth that spanking children is child abuse. I'm glad you can look yourself in the mirror and not think there is anything wrong with that. Any Psychologist will tell you the same as me. You are doing serious emotion damage to your children. So sad!
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My son saying teacher smacked him
YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING!!!! Whether being slapped or paddled, if this existed in the schools where my children attended, SERIOUSLY, I would be homeschooling my kids. I would never put my children in the hands of such ignorant people to educate them. Back to your question on what you should do and I can tell you exactly what I would do.... I would walk into the classroom and give her a nice slap back and ask her how it feels to be humiliated? I was abused back in the 70's by teachers all my life and I would never allow this to happen to my children. Not in a million years.
I don't need to get over the "loss of respect". You need to face the truth that spanking children is child abuse. I'm glad you can look yourself in the mirror and not think there is anything wrong with that. Any Psychologist will tell you the same as me. You are doing serious emotion damage to your children. So sad!
