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i want them to be strong and respectable enough to be honest with themeselves. if they ended up gay, and told me, i would feel very proud that i armed them with the right tools to have a strong understanding of who they are.
and we are talking about 12 to 15 year olds. we did lots of stuff at that age. lots. i have attributed our adventures to growing up in an urban area. but who knows maybe kids on the farm were also doing the same stuff we were doing at 13.
kids notice what attracts them. it starts young. sure kids wont know what to do, but by 13 they have a pretty good idea. wait till your kids are about 12, or start hitting puberty. just wait
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Originally Posted by Jackyfrost01
Sure they do. My boys are too young to fathom it. They do notice girls in their class but the idea of noticing a boy is something they can't even imagine. The topic of gayness gets a blank stare from them. lol
Hey I'm just glad they like girls. No jab at gay people, but no one "wants" their kids to be gay, you gotta admit that much
But at 7 and 9, even if there were girls with them, they wouldn't know what do with them. They aren't at that level of maturity yet. At worst they'd challenge the girls to a video game and I could live with that.
Of course. And I wouldn't have them together either in their teens.
Sure they do. My boys are too young to fathom it. They do notice girls in their class but the idea of noticing a boy is something they can't even imagine. The topic of gayness gets a blank stare from them. lol
Hey I'm just glad they like girls. No jab at gay people, but no one "wants" their kids to be gay, you gotta admit that much
But at 7 and 9, even if there were girls with them, they wouldn't know what do with them. They aren't at that level of maturity yet. At worst they'd challenge the girls to a video game and I could live with that.
Innocense, ah, I remember those days. One day you'll notice a change in the air and you'll have a lot of explaining to do because your boys will have a lot of questions.
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Stormy, your question doesn't have an easy answer. You know your daughter best, and if you think she and her friend are going to behave themselves, then it's your prerogative to trust her.
I appreciate that Julia. We're struggling with it, but I'm confident the right decision will be made.
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Originally Posted by happeemommee
as long as its her friend and not her " girl Friend" why should it matter?
All you can do is support her and say no to a sleep over just as if she were straight and had a boy sleep over. UNLESS, this girl is just a friend. I mean, if you are worried about the sex thing then tell your daughter whats on your mind. That' s all you can do. You would have had the same concerns if she was straight so make that clear for her. She is young and live under your roof, so you set the rules. But you have to support her or you will loose her, believe me.
I never told my parents that I had sex for the first time at 16. I am curious how some parents just know this about their kids. How they just KNOW their kids are innocent little virgins. As a parent you think your kids tells you everything but they really don't. Most of them don't anyway. They keep the "private stuff" for themselves because they know it will upset you.
All you can do is support her and say no to a sleep over just as if she were straight and had a boy sleep over. UNLESS, this girl is just a friend. I mean, if you are worried about the sex thing then tell your daughter whats on your mind. That' s all you can do. You would have had the same concerns if she was straight so make that clear for her. She is young and live under your roof, so you set the rules. But you have to support her or you will loose her, believe me.
That and how would the parents know what they were doing without barging in on them or literally being in the room with them the entire time?
I never told my parents that I had sex for the first time at 16. I am curious how some parents just know this about their kids. How they just KNOW their kids are innocent little virgins. As a parent you think your kids tells you everything but they really don't. Most of them don't anyway. They keep the "private stuff" for themselves because they know it will upset you.
I appreciate that, however, my daughter and her girlfriend have never been alone anywhere to enable them to get any further than hugging and an experimental kiss. They thoroughly discuss every move they make, and my daughter and I have pretty open communication about everything. She would tell me (albeit, not in great detail or specifics), if she and her girlfriend went anywhere beyond the hugging and quick kiss.
It's actually quite beautiful watching them during their discovery of what a real relationship is, and how they handle themselves through that discovery. They're like babies taking their first steps together and I'm proud of them for being so sensible and not getting lost in the physical, passionate aspect of being in a relationship. Their primary focus has been communication.
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