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Old 04-27-2009, 11:36 PM
 
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How many of you out there are completely exhausted. I don't mean a little tired. I don't mean temporarily, I'm talking barely sleep anymore trying to keep it all together exhausted. And if you are, how is this effecting your parenting?
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:07 AM
 
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I used to be exhausted when I had a toddler and a baby in the house. I was maxed out physically, emotionally, and mentally. I felt that I was a horrible mom and never imagined motherhood could be so difficult. I've never been a yeller until I had two kids. The stress was unbelievable.
NOW, my kids are older (1st grade and kindergarten) and life is so much easier, happier, more joyous. I'm a much better mom to older kids than to young babies and toddlers.
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:19 AM
 
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I've never been a yeller until I had two kids. The stress was unbelievable.
NOW, my kids are older (1st grade and kindergarten) and life is so much easier, happier, more joyous. I'm a much better mom to older kids than to young babies and toddlers.
Right there with you. It's amusing to read posts of childless people who know exactly how to raise kids (from some posts here and on the Relationship forum)

I, too, was a perfect parent before I had kids.

And yes, my kids are 4 and almost 6 now, what a relief.

PS: sorry to the OP that we are expressing joy - I'm afraid back in the days I wouldn't be able to crawl to the computer to type a response...

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Old 04-28-2009, 06:37 AM
 
Location: Orlando
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Right there with you. It's amusing to read posts of childless people who know exactly how to raise kids

I, too, was a perfect parent before I had kids.

And yes, my kids are 4 and almost 6 now, what a relief.

PS: sorry to the OP that we are expressing joy - I'm afraid back in the days I wouldn't be able to crawl to the computer to type a response...

I'm afraid I don't understand your response to the OP.
What has she asked that you feel you need to take to task?
I personally think you've over reacted to a plea for understanding.

Parenthood IS exhausting. It's the hardest job you'll ever love.
Hang in there!
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Aberdeen
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My wife and I have four children and have been there before. We still get exhausted at times, it seems kinda like a rollercoaster. I have some advice that REALLY helped us.

Eat right. Cut out as much junk as possible. We cut out all additives, preservatives and dyes and were amazed at the results. We began having more energy and were thinking more clearly. At first it seems totally pointless because it seems to take so much more effort to cook from scratch, but in reality is wasn't taking any longer. It also takes several weeks for the residual effects of the chemicals to wear off. We were committed to it because we read a lot of research on how these chemicals affect temperment (particularly boys).

Take vitamins. I think it is the B vitamin in particular that you REALLY need during times of stress/depression/exhaustion.

GET SLEEP! Put the kids down early if you have to. Take a nap in the middle of the day. But when you feel like this, you probably need at least 10 hours of sleep.

Drink lots of water. Your body is a power plant driven by chemical reactions. Those chemical reactions require water. If you aren't drinking enough water, you can't product enough energy or get rid of the waste products from these processes.

I pray that God will grant you peace before you reach your breaking point. I understand how you feel. Hang in there, it gets better! LOTS better.
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:48 AM
 
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I'm afraid I don't understand your response to the OP.
What has she asked that you feel you need to take to task?
I personally think you've over reacted to a plea for understanding.

Parenthood IS exhausting. It's the hardest job you'll ever love.
Hang in there!

Oh I see. Sorry must be the morning thing

I meant I understood the poster before me, summers19, in that I became a yeller, too, with a toddler and a baby. Then my thought went to some childless people on this and the Relationship forum who wouldn't understand the exhaustion.

I do understand how hard it is! Sorry for the confusion!!!
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:48 AM
 
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How many of you out there are completely exhausted. I don't mean a little tired. I don't mean temporarily, I'm talking barely sleep anymore trying to keep it all together exhausted. And if you are, how is this effecting your parenting?
When my kids were smaller I felt that way. But now that they are older (15, almost 13, 10) I feel more normal. I think its pretty normal for parents of multiple small kids to be exhausted.
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Old 04-28-2009, 07:10 AM
 
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yes it because i never really get time to myself unless i get up in the wee hours when everyone is asleep. I'm burned out. I never planned on having a autistic kid and a spouse that travels so much for work. I'm pooped out mentally.
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:01 PM
 
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Just curious...what seems to be the source of this utter exhaustion?
Work hours? No spouse support and help? Too busy of a schedule? Irritable, hard to discipline children? Overwhelming debt? Is there anything you can think of that would help you?? Changes you could attempt?

Bless your heart....parenting is HARD and add exhaustion to it! As important as our children are, I hope you are taking some time for yourself, and with your spouse...
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Old 04-28-2009, 06:25 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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Not exhausted now but expect I will be again.....teenagers generate a whole different type of exhaustion. DD's senior year in HS was exhausting (emotionally) for me. I had a hard time concentrating on either work or home issues. I was so distracted and worried and stressed. Things are much better now but man that year or so was LOOOOONG......DS is a freshman in HS so I probably have a few years before the stress relating to him gets to that point. At least I hope so.
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