How often do you expect your Adult children to call? (grandma, husband)

[kevxu]

Originally Posted by miasmommy

...My husband calls his mom NEVER and she calls about once every 3 days to say exactly "whatcha doin' whatcha thinkin' whereyagoin'?"

Presuming she doesn't have dementia, I'd call my mother NEVER too (if she were alive) and had such a dumbass approach to a family conversation.

[Mattie]

I call my own mother 1-2 times a week, and try to visit (4 hours away) every six weeks or so. I have 6 siblings, so we try to space out the calls so they don't all happen over the weekend.

My eldest son runs hot and cold with the calls. I finally told him this week I didn't care if he couldn't pick up the phone, just answer with a text that he was fine, busy, and would call when he had a chance.

[jasper12]

I have four kids..a daily caller...a weekly caller...a monthly caller...and a when he wants something caller....I don't expect them to call...I usually reserve Sunday night to call each one.

[nanafromillinois]

I live 5 blocks from my mom......I ususally stop by every day and if for some reason I do not make it by my mom calls me or I will call her......My son is 26 and he calls me pretty much every day, sometimes 2 and 3 times in one day.......The longest my son has gone without calling me was 2 days...... It gets me a little worried if my son dont call at least every other day because he has ALWAYS made sure he calls me.........

[passwithoutatrace]

I probably call my parents twice a month and text twice a week.

[Magnolia Bloom]

Originally Posted by nitokenshi

I spoke to my mom on sunday get a knock on my door today it's my sibling wanting me to call my mom because she is upset I didn't call her. Is this normal?

Maybe get your mom one of those phones that allows her to dial out...

I don't have a pattern for calling my mom, but she only complained about not hearing from me once. I told her that the phone worked both ways. Now she calls me when she wants to speak with me and I call her when I want to speak with her. And it's been working fine.

[rezfreak]

Heh, I talk to my mom daily, sometimes up to 2-3 times if its something i wanted to tell her but forgot, but usually once a day.

When my husband deploys or goes away for training or whatever, she makes sure she atleast talks/texts once during the day so incase something happened to me, she could call the cops if I didnt answer. she knows my phone is almost always a foot or two away from me, so i am usually pretty prompt in answering. If i dont answer, she will call or text again a few times before getting worried since i do have a toddler and all.

[txtqueen]

Originally Posted by rezfreak

Heh, I talk to my mom daily, sometimes up to 2-3 times if its something i wanted to tell her but forgot, but usually once a day.

When my husband deploys or goes away for training or whatever, she makes sure she atleast talks/texts once during the day so incase something happened to me, she could call the cops if I didnt answer. she knows my phone is almost always a foot or two away from me, so i am usually pretty prompt in answering. If i dont answer, she will call or text again a few times before getting worried since i do have a toddler and all.

That's how I am with my grandmother not my mom.
Just don't have that close relationship, it's getting there but as long as you have someone who you can have that close relationship with it doesn't matter who it is.

[kevxu]

My mother used to call me every Sunday morning at 9 a.m. sharp. I asked her not to as I went out on Saturday night and didn't get home until about 4 a.m., and we could talk in the early afternoon. She said I should be up at 9 a.m. anyway, and not be out so late. As I was in my late thirties at this point, I thought she should just go p*ss up a rope. From that time on I simply pulled the phone plug out of the wall when I came home and put it back after I got up and had breakfast.

I almost never called her, as she would simply call again on Sunday anyway. She never had any news - she really had no interests other than herself, and she had no active interest in my life....actually seemed bored if I talked about my job. I think the call was simply a symbolic gesture that we were connected. She had the same rather bizarre type of communication with her only remaining sister. I used to call this aunt about every couple to three weeks, and we had great conversations. But she had always meant more to me than my mother did because we had a shared relationship and love, and not a one-way one. So, as she was really person I had the strong relationship with, you could say I called my "mother" every two or three weeks. But we wrote each other a long letter once a month or more since I was in my early twenties too.

[kevxu]

Originally Posted by txtqueen

That's how I am with my grandmother not my mom.
Just don't have that close relationship, it's getting there but as long as you have someone who you can have that close relationship with it doesn't matter who it is.

You got it! Absolutely.