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Old 05-01-2009, 03:47 PM
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I spoke to my mom on sunday get a knock on my door today it's my sibling wanting me to call my mom because she is upset I didn't call her. Is this normal?
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Old 05-01-2009, 03:49 PM
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not really. My mom is happy to get a call whenever I can, which usually once a month, but she never pressures me.
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Old 05-01-2009, 03:54 PM
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Do you usually call her twice/week? every day? Then she would come to expect it. If not, then, no I don't think it is normal. I know some people who talk to their parents every day, others who talk maybe once a week or once every other week.
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Old 05-01-2009, 04:30 PM
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I call her when ever maybe once a month and when I do she cries because I do not call her every single day.
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Old 05-01-2009, 04:54 PM
Location: chicagoland
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I call my mom everyday. Sometimes more than once a day if I have questions or want to share something. She usually calls and says 'I haven't talked to you in days" if I go one day without talking to her.

It depends what kind of relationship you have. I still take my daughter over for weekends and stay and sleepover. She lives 45 minutes away.

I also think it is different for men.

My husband calls his mom NEVER and she calls about once every 3 days to say exactly "whatcha doin' whatcha thinkin' whereyagoin'?"
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Old 05-01-2009, 05:02 PM
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I call my parents @once a week. Or I email my dad a few times a week. My husband calls his family less (they live abroad).
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Old 05-01-2009, 05:33 PM
Location: Western Hoosierland
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My mother and her parents often go up to months without speaking to each other. They have a strained relationship. I talk to my mom everyday because I still live at home.
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Old 05-01-2009, 05:50 PM
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Personally, I don't think there should be any expectation on when an adult son/daughter should call. You stay in touch out of respect, love and concern for your parent(s). If your mother is concerned about you, is she able to reach you by phone or email? It sounds that if she did either, you would respond. I don't think sending your sister over is appropriate. You are an adult now--staying in touch can be a two-way street. If the expectations feel a bit unreasonable to you, make sure that you don't have an unhealthy boundary with her.

I have an excellent relationship with my mother (always have--I feel very blessed). We don't live near each other and we stay in touch via cards, letters and phone calls. Every phone call and letter is a joy because it isn't in response to an expectation.
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Old 05-01-2009, 06:19 PM
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Mine calls every three or four weeks. I call her every three or four weeks, so we talk at least a couple times a month. That's enough for us since our conversations last 2 or 3 hours every time.
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Old 05-01-2009, 07:26 PM
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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We do not live near any of our family.. parents or extended. I talk to my mom probably almost every day,if not,then every other...
Even when they are on vacay or somewhere, my mom calls me to say "hi" and to talk to our kids.
I remember my mom always talking to my grandma also when I was growing up, once I was old enough to call my grandma, I would do so every day and that continued until she passed away when I was in my late 20's.
I miss those phone calls now .
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