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Old 05-02-2009, 06:42 PM
 
Location: Here... for now
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I'd be lying if I said I've never been tempted to snoop. But, for some reason, I just haven't done it. Not as a kid, not as an adult, not as a parent. The whole idea just feels dirty to me. As far as I know, DH and DS aren't snoopers either. Or maybe they're just *really* sneaky and haven't been caught!

As far as snooping as a parent goes, our son never gave us any reason to snoop. We let it be known very early that we respected his privacy BUT we also let him know we had high expectations that he would not violate that trust. We also let it be known that we trusted him not to violate our privacy. I know it sounds pollyanna-ish, but somehow, it all worked for our specific family dynamic.

I will say we've had friends who snooped, or at least my son has. I remember one specific friend who opened my son's dresser drawers. Who knows why, but my son was miffed. Another started opening and closing kitchen drawers. When I asked him what he was doing, he didn't even have an answer. He was only about 10, so I don't think there was anything to worry about. More recently, one of his friends picked up his IPod and started flipping through it without asking.

Not being snoopers, I guess we're the odd ones...
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Old 05-03-2009, 12:09 PM
 
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I was a plunderbug when I was little. I had to understand the dynamics of the adults in my life. I never went looking for christmas gifts though. I like the surprise. I was mischevious and pushed boundries, but I had a good heart, I was never malicious with the info I found.

As for my kids, I have nothing to hide. Well, technically I guess that's not true. Both DH & I have our divirce papers put away. There are some things children don't need to read about their parents. My son doesn't need to know that his father does drugs regularly and DH's kids don't need to know his ex ran around on him. It isn't about hiding something, it is about allowing the children to form their own opinions.

As to if I snoop on the kids.... I walk in while they are in their room and look. I help them clean up sometimes and we talk about what is going on in their lives.

The youngest, she would probably be the one to snoop. the way I see it, (other than the divorce papers) let her look.
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Old 05-03-2009, 01:36 PM
 
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Snooping as kids doesn't really run in my family. I guess I'll worry about that if it happens, but I'm not sure what it is they'd find. So I'm not too worried about it.

I feel its somewhat ok to snoop on the kids. Within reason, making sure there's no drugs or weapons in your house, etc is just being responsible.

My only thing was having to lock away some food so the rest of us could have soemthing to eat. Unguarded those teenage boys will eat everything without thought to anyone else at all. I have had to put a freezer in the bedroom, padlock it and lock our door so we could have our share. Call it cruel if you must but we gotta eat, too and that was the only way as the kid would constantly stay up all night palying video games and eat eat eat. You'd look in the Fridge in the AM and see NO food. So thats what it came too...hiding a stash for the rest of us or we'd go hungry. Even when it was clearly labeled for someone/something else or it was for the baby or for a special event, he'd eat it. So I had to lock those things up.
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Old 05-03-2009, 03:03 PM
 
Location: Australia
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I also don't think that all children snoop. My kids seem to have no problems respecting the privacy of ...
Or maybe they are just really discrete

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It's a parent's job to make sure their kids don't have things like drugs, pornography, cigarettes, etc
Agree

I wonder if any parents here are going to admit to having anything kinky in the house?.
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Old 05-03-2009, 04:56 PM
 
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...I wonder if any parents here are going to admit to having anything kinky in the house?.
Why wouldn't they on HERE? Its the internet, not face-to-face, so what is anyone gonna "really" do to ya other than type? lol
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Old 05-03-2009, 05:18 PM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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My wife told me that her daughters used to go and baby sit together, as a team. After an hour or so, they would phone home, PIPL, saying "Mom, youll never believe what we found under the bed!"
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