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Old 05-02-2009, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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Kids snoop.

How do you deal with your private affairs, with the tendency of kids to snoop? Do you have things hidden? Have the kids found it? Are you sure?

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Old 05-02-2009, 09:11 AM
 
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At 13, there was not a nook or cranny I wouldn't know about in my house, - hidden gifts for upcoming birthdays, secret mother's diaries... One time I found this dress that I knew would be a gift for me, and started crying... because a 13yo girl had her own idea of fashion and that dress semed so dowdy to me. The torture was to keep the upset quiet and manage a gratitude when it was given to me.

Up to 10, I think a parent can be creative enough to hide. After that, you have to have a safety box in a bank (for documents/diaries), a hide-away at trusted friends/relatives for gifts....
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Old 05-02-2009, 09:49 AM
 
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I didn't snoop on my parents when I was a kid, because I knew if I got caught it would mean a belting. Besides, my parents were too fundie-uptight to have any good secrets, and we didn't get presents for birthdays and xmas so no use to snoop for those either. Their idea of sinful would probably have been a hidden chocolate bar or something.
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Old 05-02-2009, 09:57 AM
 
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I was very sneaky as a kid so I was prepared for the snoopers. Except my DD isn't much of one, at least for presents and such, she like to be surprised. DS on the other hand is very snoopy ( wonder where he got that from) We put a regular door lock on our extra bedroom that we use for storage and keep the key hidden very well. It's foiled him so far but hes only 11 (this month).
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Old 05-02-2009, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Maine
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Kids snoop.

How do you deal with your private affairs, with the tendency of kids to snoop? Do you have things hidden? Have the kids found it? Are you sure?

What kinds of things are you referring to in your post? My hubby and I have condoms in a drawer by our bed. If my kids "snooped" and saw them I wouldn't think anything of it. So their parents have sex; big deal! I have tampons in the house too! Maybe people want to snoop around for those too!

I also don't think that all children snoop. My kids seem to have no problems respecting the privacy of the other people in our household. maybe the problem is with the parents and not the children?

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Old 05-02-2009, 10:55 AM
 
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My kid is retarded and doesn't snoop.
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Old 05-02-2009, 11:05 AM
 
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Some Questions back at you, Do you snoop through your kid's things? Do you think it is okay to snoop through your kid's things?

If you said yes to either of those, then a parent shouldn't get upset if their kids snoop through their things.

Yes curiousity leads kids to snoop, but I think secracy is an even bigger reason to snoop. If kids or adults a like think there are secrets then snooping is sometimes the only way to find out secrets.

I personally do not care for snooping and have only done it to my kids when I feel they are keeping a secret that could be dangerous or harmful, but the snooping only comes after I feel they have not been honest about something I have asked about, like doing drugs or having sex. I try to keep a pretty open relationship with my kids and I have not kept anything of mine a secret. If they have a question about things I answer them, if they happen upon something that is in a closet, or drawers, or a box and are curious about it, I will answer whatever questions they have about it. I do not purposely hide things from my kids, other than maybe a gift which I hope to keep as a surprise and not a secret. Whatever is in a closet, a drawer, or a box is only there for storage purposes and it is a way of keeping clutter contained.

The one thing I dislike is when strangers go snooping throughout my house. Even though I have no secrets, it is still disrespectful for strangers to snoop through other people's belongings. I feel it is a violation of personal space. If I ever found out my kids were snooping through someone else's stuff, I would be very upset at them.
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Old 05-02-2009, 02:31 PM
 
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First, my daughter does not snoop and she is not retarded in any way. She simply respects the privacy of others.

In one post you stated that if kids don't snoop, they are retarded, and in the next, you state that the lack of curiosity of the world around them is an indication of retardation. Actually, neither is correct. Extremely intelligent kids don't always snoop or have an inordinate curiosity of their immediate world.
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Here we go again with the "wha wha wha's." It's a statement. If your kid isn't "retarded" then why are you offended?
I agree. I wouldn't have used the word "retarded" but if a kid isn't interested or hasn't snooped it is a bit "different."
Edit the post? Rephrase? Take it out? By god, don't read it then..
Unless someone says that children should have sex with adults or they should be doing drugs or anything else that is dangerous to a child, then chill out. . You all need to stop taking everything so personal. None of us know each other and no one is targeting anything.
You have some serious issues.
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My kid is retarded and doesn't snoop.

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Some Questions back at you, Do you snoop through your kid's things? Do you think it is okay to snoop through your kid's things?

If you said yes to either of those, then a parent shouldn't get upset if their kids snoop through their things.
WAY wrong. It's a parent's job to make sure their kids don't have things like drugs, pornography, cigarettes, etc.. It's none of a kid's business what a parent has.
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Yes curiousity leads kids to snoop, but I think secracy is an even bigger reason to snoop. If kids or adults a like think there are secrets then snooping is sometimes the only way to find out secrets.
Why is it necessary to know everybody else's secrets? Why does it matter? Parents are allowed secrets, so are kids. They only secrets kids aren't allowed are those that can hurt them.

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The one thing I dislike is when strangers go snooping throughout my house. Even though I have no secrets, it is still disrespectful for strangers to snoop through other people's belongings. I feel it is a violation of personal space. If I ever found out my kids were snooping through someone else's stuff, I would be very upset at them.
There would be no strangers in my house unless I was there, and why would strangers snoop in somebody else's house?
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Old 05-02-2009, 02:33 PM
 
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...My hubby and I have condoms in a drawer by our bed. If my kids "snooped" and saw them I wouldn't think anything of it. So their parents have sex; big deal! ....
LOL - when I was a kid, my sisters and I found our dad's condoms. we thought they were special "balloons" and asked our mother if we could play with them. Needless to say, we quickly learned that they were not for OUR play purposes....
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Old 05-02-2009, 02:37 PM
 
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LOL, I was a HUGE snooper when I was growing up. Being a snooper, allowed me to find out who my bio parents were. I was adopted, I knew this but was sensitive to my parent's feelings so I didn't ask too many questions. Instead I snooped, and snooped and found legal documentation on my adoption. I've been in contact with my bio family even and stay in touch, all because I'm snoopy,lol...my family has no idea and I'd hate to hurt them with it.

My kids probably snoop, but really there isn't much to find! Although there is one toy I should probably hide,lol
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