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Old 05-03-2009, 06:46 PM
 
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I think I was afraid that the lactation nurses (no idea if they were LLL or not) would make me feel even worse that I was failing. I was so embarrassed to admit I was having trouble. I did go to them once probably during the first week, and they seemed to think things were going fine. It became obvious after that, that things were not going fine. I wonder if they really knew what they were talking about or not. Still, I wish I'd asked for help at least once more before giving up.
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Old 05-03-2009, 07:01 PM
 
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I think I was afraid that the lactation nurses (no idea if they were LLL or not) would make me feel even worse that I was failing. I was so embarrassed to admit I was having trouble. I did go to them once probably during the first week, and they seemed to think things were going fine. It became obvious after that, that things were not going fine. I wonder if they really knew what they were talking about or not. Still, I wish I'd asked for help at least once more before giving up.
This is really similar to my story from my first born. I still feel guilty for not giving it one more try, day, etc.
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Old 05-03-2009, 07:07 PM
 
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Not all agendas involve selling something tangible. Sometimes, the agenda is to promote a certain viewpoint. But y'know what, squabbling over that particular point isn't going to help the OP. I think (I hope) we all want her to do whatever she can to feed her child and to not feel guilty about not being able to nurse, whether she continues to try or not.

As long as she is feeding and attending to her baby, she's not a failure.
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Old 05-03-2009, 07:14 PM
 
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if you want to nurse you can

if breast milk makes the infant gassy, make sure to eliminate from your own diet: onions and chocolate for starters.

breastfeeding is not rocket science, it is supply and demand
so pumping is not the way to go, because it does not get baby in the habit of nursing

babies are lazy
bottle is easier to get milk from
but babies are also hungry
so keep offering the breast, and baby will nurse, and will get fed.

if you have to nurse every 30 minutes, do it
milk will come in, baby will nurse, and voila! you are breastfeeding
baby is not going to starve

don't let anyone including doctors tell you it can't be done
particularly if baby is "already on the bottle"
it can be done

doctors are well-meaning, but not as knowledgeable in the field as other breastfeeding moms;
i had doctors tell me i couldn't nurse twins because i "wouldn't have enough milk"
hogwash. like i said, simple supply and demand,
the more baby nurses and eats, the more milk comes in.
that's it, not rocket science

best wishes
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Old 05-03-2009, 07:25 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I am a first time mom, my baby was born on 4-15-09 and I have been unable to breastfeed. I am devastated and I can't stop crying...Is anyone out there having similiar issues?? I am so depressed I don't know what to do with myself and I'm afraid I'll always hate myself for not breastfeeding!!!
I don' know much about this problem, but it looks like there was some good advice. Hang in there!
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Old 05-03-2009, 09:12 PM
 
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I just happened across another thread similar to yours - 2 week old baby, trying to get her back on the breast. There are lots of suggestions, so maybe some of them will also be helpful for you. Baby's 2 wks old.. how hard to relactate? - Breastfeeding Support - DiaperSwappers.com
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Old 05-04-2009, 07:16 AM
 
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I think, perhaps, we are all wasting our breath. Has anyone else noticed that the OP only has 1 post and hasn't been back to comment on the thread she started?
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Old 05-04-2009, 08:23 AM
 
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I think, perhaps, we are all wasting our breath. Has anyone else noticed that the OP only has 1 post and hasn't been back to comment on the thread she started?
Been happening a lot lately .
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Old 05-04-2009, 08:27 AM
 
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I'm sorry this is happening and things didn't go the way you planned.

But In my opinion, I think you should count your blessings and stop complaining. You have a HEALTHY baby and some people dont. Some peoples babies never come home from the hospital.

Count your blessings. There are worse things then NOT being able to breastfeed.
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Old 05-04-2009, 09:00 AM
 
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I think you should count your blessings and stop complaining. You have a HEALTHY baby and some people dont. Some peoples babies never come home from the hospital.

Count your blessings. There are worse things then NOT being able to breastfeed.
Yes but the pain and disappointment, frustration and concern of a mom who does want to breastfeed is very real, and those feelings are important. To discount them or belittle them does no service to the mother with those very real and valid feelings.
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