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Old 01-21-2013, 04:05 PM
 
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My sister parents in a very uptight way. It is rather annoying. Her kids live very sheltered coddled lives and I feel that they will not be prepared when reality hits. My kids on the other hand are exposed to the realities of the world.
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Old 01-21-2013, 04:23 PM
 
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My sister parents in a very uptight way. It is rather annoying. Her kids live very sheltered coddled lives and I feel that they will not be prepared when reality hits. My kids on the other hand are exposed to the realities of the world.
Good point. One can be protective but not go overboard.

We had new neighbors move in next to us. First thing they did was put up a chest high fence which they keep locked. They will let their kids play out there on occasion but the mother stands guard with a really worried look on her face. Her arms are crossed, brow furrowed, she checks the fence locks several times. Her kids range in ages of 1st to 5 th grade. We live in a nice neighborhood with very comfortably middle class people and virtually no crime,

I walked to the little kiddie park with her and just felt a claustrophic fear the whole time. She stood at the slide fretting much of the time. Unfortunately, all three of her kids are whiney and fearful. It was impossible to hold a conversation with this mom since 100% of her attention was focused on the kids. It is a really nice family but she needs to take a bit of a chill pill as my daughter likes to tell me.....
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Old 01-21-2013, 04:57 PM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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Good point. One can be protective but not go overboard.

We had new neighbors move in next to us. First thing they did was put up a chest high fence which they keep locked. They will let their kids play out there on occasion but the mother stands guard with a really worried look on her face. Her arms are crossed, brow furrowed, she checks the fence locks several times. Her kids range in ages of 1st to 5 th grade. We live in a nice neighborhood with very comfortably middle class people and virtually no crime,

I walked to the little kiddie park with her and just felt a claustrophic fear the whole time. She stood at the slide fretting much of the time. Unfortunately, all three of her kids are whiney and fearful. It was impossible to hold a conversation with this mom since 100% of her attention was focused on the kids. It is a really nice family but she needs to take a bit of a chill pill as my daughter likes to tell me.....
Sounds like she might have some anxiety issues. It's very common. Anxiety can be debilitating. Just be her friend. I'm sure she could use one.
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Old 01-21-2013, 07:20 PM
 
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Sounds like she might have some anxiety issues. It's very common. Anxiety can be debilitating. Just be her friend. I'm sure she could use one.
You have a good point. Her husband works on the narcotic task force so perhaps they see the seedier side of life. They are good folks and we always try to be friendly. Hopefully with time, they will settle in. The anxiety point is a good one and I didn't consider that.
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Old 01-22-2013, 10:47 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn New York
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back in the 60's we could walk miles away and still be back in time for dinner, mom had not a clue where we ever were. we were just out playing, but it was a lot safer back then than it is now. now we would tell her stories of where we used to go and she was like, where was I?, i said i guess in the house or back yard...... but it was different then, kids could do that. kids could ride a bike for miles away....


Now when my sons were little, I wanted to know where they are at all times, very rarely ever out of my site....not until teen years.....ugh !
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Old 01-22-2013, 03:36 PM
 
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back in the 60's we could walk miles away and still be back in time for dinner, mom had not a clue where we ever were. we were just out playing, but it was a lot safer back then than it is now. now we would tell her stories of where we used to go and she was like, where was I?, i said i guess in the house or back yard...... but it was different then, kids could do that. kids could ride a bike for miles away....


Now when my sons were little, I wanted to know where they are at all times, very rarely ever out of my site....not until teen years.....ugh !
Ok, I'm sorry this is such a pet peeve of mine. It was NOT safer "back then." Violent crime rates are at the lowest point now that they have been since the 60s. Juvenile violent crime rates are even lower. A "breathtaking drop" according to the nytimes.

httphttp://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/20/us/number-of-children-exposed-to-violent-crime-drops.html?_r=0://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crime_in_the_United_States
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Old 01-22-2013, 04:35 PM
 
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Agreed. The worst "judges" of all, are other parents... it is horrible the way other parents (mainly mom's-as a mom I hope that I am not one of these judges...but it IS mainly the mom's)...
From what our children are wearing ,to what they eat,if they watch tv ,who their friends are,etc...
Every single thing we do is judged and commented on.
It is extremely difficult to just parent your child the way that you see is right for your family, as someone always has something to say.
OMG. You stole the words out of my mouth. I completely agree with you. Moms are very judgemental and can be very cruel to others, adults or children.
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