Examples of over protective parenting (teens, mother-in-law, parents, girl)

[aidxen]

There have been a couple of threads recently where people are saying hang on its OK to let kids run free. But there are still parents who in my opinion are very protective. They think that they are doing the right thing and maybe they are.

What example have you seen or heard of that are too over protective, too over parented, too pushy. In your opinion.? And what drives it. Again in your opinion.

[121804]

Originally Posted by aidxen

But there are still parents who in my opinion are very protective. They think that they are doing the right thing and maybe they are.

When protective turns into obsessive & paranoid. Then, there is a problem.

[usmcfamily]

Originally Posted by aidxen

There have been a couple of threads recently where people are saying hang on its OK to let kids run free. But there are still parents who in my opinion are very protective. They think that they are doing the right thing and maybe they are.

What example have you seen or heard of that are too over protective, too over parented, too pushy. In your opinion.? And what drives it. Again in your opinion.

I am considered "overprotective" because I make sure that there is a parent home when my 16 year old goes to a friends house on a weekend night! No parent home, not allowed to go!

[katy68]

i've 2 children with mental health issues.i'm over protective but when a 12 yr old acts like a 2 yr old without supervision, you have to be.
the parents i know who are very relaxed all have teens who sleep around and don't have stable relationships.children and teens feel safer with rules and appropriate supervision

[wyoquilter]

Originally Posted by 121804

When protective turns into obsessive & paranoid. Then, there is a problem.

Sounds much like my mother-in-law. She was never paranoid or obsessed about things when her boys were growing up and she didn't care if they wandered the streets all day. The only thing she never let them do was spend the night at a friend's house. But now that she is a grandmother she is constantly on the phone or up at our house telling us to lock up our kids because some kid three states away was abducted. She litterally panics at the thought of our three youngest even being in the front yard to check the mail alone.

She is so paranoid, that she is constantly making it sound as if my DH and I do not know how to parent. She thinks we are bad parents when we let our kids go and sleep over at a friend's house. The sad truth is, our kids are probably safer in our yard front or back than they are in hers. We keep trying to remind her that we have tons of safe gaurds in and around our home and we have explained over and over again to our children how to deal with strangers and anyone else who makes them feel scared or uncomfortable.

Some would say I'm a bit over protective of my kids and I do worry about my kids being abducted, but not to the extent of my mother-in-law's idea of protection or paranoia. She has gone completely off her rocker.

[Jackyfrost01]

Whn your hiding behind every tree with binoculars, then your being over protective.

[usmcfamily]

Originally Posted by Jackyfrost01

Whn your hiding behind every tree with binoculars, then your being over protective.

Dang, I'm busted! Really, I was looking at my neighbors!

[JustJulia]

Flipping out about a 10-year-old girl going to a tanning salon, as if she were taking stripper aerobic lessons or something.

[Jackyfrost01]

ya they could be into worse things, huh

[Leilani Vasquez]

Originally Posted by usmcfamily

I am considered "overprotective" because I make sure that there is a parent home when my 16 year old goes to a friends house on a weekend night! No parent home, not allowed to go!

That's called being responsible - not overprotective! You're doing the right thing. There's too many negative outlets for teenagers these days, and IMO there are too many parents who give their children far too many choices.