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Old 05-05-2009, 11:20 AM
 
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In our home, toys that aren't put away get put in a bucket. From that point we (DH & I) decide if they get thrown away, given to goodwill or if the child can earn it back. As for their rooms, they have to have it clean enough to run the vacuum about once a week. We don't sweat dusting in there.... we let them play with the swiffers every now and again. As for the aspergers, he is "using" his disability to get out of work. Do not allow this. Do not allow him to learn to use the helpless card. My DSS has ASD. They have a hard enough road without putting themselves in the helpless category. For him, whenever he uses his aspergers for an excuse, counter act with something along the lines of "well if aspergers prevents you from cleaning up your legos, we may have to keep you from playing with them." Kids will live up or down to your expectations. Consistancy is the key.
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Old 05-05-2009, 12:52 PM
 
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Hey there...I was told about 1 2 3 Magic by some parents, and my son with Asperger's just saw a doctor at Hershey Medical Center who strongly recommended it for AS kids along with others. I haven't gotten it yet but read all about it online. Check it out How to Use 1-2-3 Magic Discipline | eHow.com.

Even though I haven't read it yet, I started counting to 3 with my 4 yo daughter and having regular consequences if she didn't comply. It's actually working on her--I haven't gotten to 3 many times lately.
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Old 05-05-2009, 01:02 PM
 
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I would pick your battles some things are just not worth getting both you and the child upset for. they have learned that you give up which is why they push you and not dad. I was a push over so take my advise with a grain of salt! I would use like another poster suggested a reward system a calendar where they could earn stars and at the end of the week get to go get ice cream, mc donalds or the toy store. if you can be tough enough taking away a star when appropriate is good too. you are the one that has to live with your children so do what feels right for you and your family. hugs
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