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Old 05-05-2009, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Orlando
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Nope, didn't make my kids do this. It's an antiquated practice that really isn't necessary. Saying thank you in some manner is compulsory -- writing an actual thank you note is not.
I noticed that you didn't quote my third line....hmmmmmm

All three bases of thank-you's were covered just one line down.
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Old 05-05-2009, 03:26 PM
 
Location: New Creek, WV
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We always had to write thank you notes. Seeing as how some of our family was in another state, it only made sense to send them a card acknowledging the gift and saying thanks. *seriously, they couldn't come up from FL everytime a b-day or holiday happened*

My kids WILL write thank you notes. Their grandparents are in Michigan, Ohio and in Florida. It is impossible for them to thank them in person for things. A quick note means the world to a grandma or auntie. I always get thank you's from my nieces and nephews, or they know they will not be receiving anything from me the following year. Manners are HUGE in my family. Now, my kids and my nieces, nephews are all small, so a phone call or if in person, a thank you works just fine. But when my niece starts having graduations, proms, etc... she will be expected by EVERYONE to write a thank you note.

Means to world to us, but I guess it's not for everyone!

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Old 05-05-2009, 03:32 PM
 
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And a phone call and email don't count to me!
So your gifts aren't gifts then. A gift is something given with no strings attached, out of love. A personal phone call telling me thank you would be a lovely way of responding to a gift. Email is also just fine. They're all methods of appropriate communication. If a nice phone call or an email "don't count" to you, then you have weird issues with keeping up with the times.
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Old 05-05-2009, 03:35 PM
 
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I noticed that you didn't quote my third line....hmmmmmm

All three bases of thank-you's were covered just one line down.
Calling the person on the phone, or telling them in person is not "sending a thank-you note" which is what I was quite obviously responding to. You specifically mentioned "the art of sending thank you notes" did you not?
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Old 05-05-2009, 03:38 PM
 
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Keeping up with the times doesn't necessarily mean forgoing 'social graces'...that is one thing wrong with society these days, imo. The waning away of respect, morals and values, of appreciation and commonsense.
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Old 05-05-2009, 03:40 PM
 
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Keeping up with the times doesn't necessarily mean forgoing 'social graces'...that is one thing wrong with society these days, imo. The waning away of respect, morals and values, of appreciation and commonsense.
Excuse me, nobody said to throw out saying thank you. I said it can be properly said in other ways than making your kid sit down and hand write a note.
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Old 05-05-2009, 04:19 PM
 
Location: here
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Nope, didn't make my kids do this. It's an antiquated practice that really isn't necessary. Saying thank you in some manner is compulsory -- writing an actual thank you note is not.
then I hope you don't mind if people think your kids lack good manners.
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Old 05-05-2009, 04:24 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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My mother expected me to not only work 50 hours a week pregnant and with two children and a household to write thank you cards????
Yes, thank you cards would have been the proper thing to do.
Your mother was right.
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Old 05-05-2009, 04:30 PM
 
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Yes, thank you cards would have been the proper thing to do.
Your mother was right.

That just does't make sense. You're saying you want a written thank you from a child's parent rather than a personal VERBAL one from the child?

Makes no sense

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Old 05-05-2009, 04:36 PM
 
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then I hope you don't mind if people think your kids lack good manners.
That's pretty extreme to not consider a child to have good manners b/c they do not WRITE a thank you note. As stated by the poster, there are other ways of saying thank you...may not be the way YOU prefer, but it is still "thank you".

Has modern times (email & cell phones) taken away the personal touch? Probably. Does requiring a child to write a thank you note instill many things that a computer & phone cannot? Again, probably.

But to say a child lacks manners b/c they do not "write" a thank you note is a little absurd.

Not all children can write based on age or mental ability...so, to make it even more absurd, why isn't the appropriate age given of when a child should be able to hand write a thank you note?????

Is it ok that a child with severe cerebal palsy not WRITE a thank you note or is that ill-mannered?
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