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Old 05-12-2009, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Stuck on the East Coast, hoping to head West
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I don't really get the rules. The article says the boy could go if the principal signed a release form. The principal signed the form and now it seems like the principal is reneging. The question is why?

Personally, I don't think that this dance issue has anything to do with the dance and everything to do with money. I think the principal was fine with this kid going to the dance (he signed the form). I think the other parents at the school got wind of it and threw a fit, threatened to move their money to another private school and now the principal is trying to backpedal to appease them.

If that's true and the school is motivated by money as opposed to morality in this situation, then I think the boy is entirely right to go to the dance.
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Old 05-12-2009, 02:54 PM
 
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What I don't understand is how the boy's school could suspend him for doing something at a ANOTHER school's function.
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Old 05-12-2009, 03:02 PM
 
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I disagree. The principal signed the paper to ok the boy to attend the prom. Parents should have some control over the lives of their children.
Yes they should, but some private schools have rules and both the parents and the students have to agree to the rules.

Agreeing to the rules does not mean you think they are right. For instance, my son's school does not permit students to have facial hair. I don't see anything wrong with facial hair, but I have agreed, and my son have agreed that he will not have facial hair while he is enrolled at that school.

I didn't read anything in the article that you posted that indicates anything about the principal signing anything.
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Old 05-12-2009, 03:03 PM
 
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The parents can stand up for the kid all they want to, but the school can kick him out all the same. It's funny, parents often send their kids to private school so the kids don't have to associate with children the parents believe will be bad influences. But as soon as THEIR kid gets kick out for being a "bad" influence, in this case, dancing and holding hands with a girl, it's unfair. Well, you've been paying for the "unfairness" all along.
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Old 05-12-2009, 03:04 PM
 
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What I don't understand is how the boy's school could suspend him for doing something at a ANOTHER school's function.
Many private schools have morals clauses that apply to a student's behavior on campus AND off campus.
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Old 05-12-2009, 04:18 PM
 
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Many private schools have morals clauses that apply to a student's behavior on campus AND off campus.
Yep. And Liberty University has an agreement that you have to sign related to drinking, associating with people who drink, going to dances, watching R rated movies, etc....

I don't know how unique it is among universities but I bet this private school is not the only one that has such a policy.

Back to the original question: first, I would not send my child to a school that had a policy that I would let him break - if I did not want him prohibited from attending a dance at another school, that would not be something new that I would figure out during the year. So, why did the parents send him there if they did not support the school's policy in their lives? What is the point? Are the other school options in the area so horrid that the parents had to resort to a school that did not share their values? Its like sending a child to a Catholic school and then getting upset he has to attend Mass on Friday mornings even though he is not Catholic.

Second, if the principal did sign the waiver, why did he change his mind? If the waiver is signed, I think it should be honored and the principal should think a little longer and harder next time.
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Old 05-12-2009, 04:30 PM
 
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I think the principal was setting the kid up for failure. You can go to the prom, just don't dance or hold hands! I would never send my kid to a school like this. If the parents don't have a problem with dancing, hand holding, etc., why did they choose this school? If I as the parent, and my child had signed the contract, or whatever, and we were fully aware of the consequences, I don't think I would support my child going to the dance knowing that he wouldn't walk at graduation.
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Old 05-12-2009, 05:35 PM
 
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It seems that the principal gave this student an exemption to the standard policy and signed the release for the student to attend the prom.

It should be the principal being suspended for breaking school policy instead of the student.
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Old 05-12-2009, 07:32 PM
 
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Please show me where everyone is getting this information that the principal signed something?????

This is an article BEFORE the actual prom date

http://www.toledoonthemove.com/news/...aspx?id=297694 Says that the BOY signed something saying he would follow the rules.

The school shouldn't have any control or say in what the kid does out of school or on the weekends but he DID sign the agreement himself. I like/agree with the point that temptation/girls and women being in lowcut shirts and "smut" is all over the place out of school. What are you going to do, expel the kid for walking down the street???
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Old 05-12-2009, 08:10 PM
 
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The boy and his step dad were interviewed in Today this morning, or maybe The Early Show. He mentioned the paper that needed to be signed.
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