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Old 03-17-2010, 05:33 AM
 
Location: Lehigh Acres
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Mine is 15 (I also have a 32 year old). We have a very close relationship, but this last year she has decided that she knows more than I about most anything. We talk all the time.

I think there is a dawning at around 14, close to 15 when teens, especially girls, realize they can hold their own in conversations with adults, and not feel like they are thinking like children. That gives them a tremendous amount of confidence. They exert that confidence with an air as being higher on the food chain than the parents. They are also under the impression that since they are so very smart, they are ready, willing and able to make decisions that are not theirs to make.

There is a fine line between nurturing that new found confidence and leading them to make solid decisions. It's all in the wording. They have to think is was all their idea.

You have a 32 year old AND a 15 year old child? Chances are your 15 year old DOES know more than you about the current happenings. Unlimited technology and being submersed in current events, both in and out of school has a profound effect on children. You are right, ask them the questions that you know will return the answers you desire!
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Old 03-17-2010, 05:36 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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Get her on BC...like...yesterday! No matter what she tells you...you have to assume she is having sex.
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Old 03-17-2010, 07:27 AM
 
Location: In the real world!
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I agree, get her on birth control before it's to late! It's best to just assume she is having sex and get her protected!

When my daughter started the 9th grade, I took her to Family Planning to get educated on birth control and get some form of birth control from a professional since they think Mom's don't know what they are talking about. I told her when I dropped her off there that day that there is NO excuse for a girl getting pregnant anymore and if she does, she is just plain STUPID! It was the best thing I ever did as a mother. She told all her friends about it, told them the name of the place I took her and all her friends ended up going and getting on birth control.

No, I did not think she was already having sex but I would rather her be safe than be sorry later. Rather or not she got any form of birth control that day, I do not know, I didn't ask her. I wanted her to be educated in birth control by a professional.
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Old 10-28-2011, 03:52 PM
 
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my daughter is hanging around with unruly 17yrs old and has been in trouble with the police when i say anything shes angry and says thats why i tell you nothing she has also started lying to me were shes going and were shes been please help.
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Old 10-29-2011, 12:19 PM
 
Location: Southern NC
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my daughter is hanging around with unruly 17yrs old and has been in trouble with the police when i say anything shes angry and says thats why i tell you nothing she has also started lying to me were shes going and were shes been please help.
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Old 10-29-2011, 02:41 PM
 
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I have a 16 year old who has been such a wonderful child until now- she thinks she can do anything anytime without asking- stays in her room -doesn't have a lot to do with us- apparently after talking to others they are seeing the same attitudes etc. She also has a boyfriend whom i really do like- they go to his house more - she has grown up with out a dad around- so i feel like he is kinda like a father figure- I m concerned about SEX- we are going to get on pill soon- she also is very moody around the cycle time and has bad acne that time of the month. anyone with 16 years olds -please chime in-let me know if and when it may get better
I too, have a 16 year old daughter..and she definately has some of the same teen-age habits as yours. Up all hours...never know what she's up to half the time....but having had 3 children go through the teens before her, I can honestly say...don't worry, don't fret...breath deep.As long as she knows you are there when she needs you, and she can tell you anything she wants without you getting mad at her....eventually she will again become more social with you, and willing to share her life with you......Don't be afraid to bring up the subject of birth control...and with mine...I've always told them that if they're ever in a fix and need to get away...if they need a ride....no matter WHAT time it is they can call me....Kids at that age don't seem to be very good, or interested in talking much with the parents...usually only when they're sucking up to you because they need or want something..... rest assured...that's normal...and eventually..in a few years time...if you are very patient and calm with them....you will have a wonderful friend....
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Old 10-30-2011, 11:44 AM
 
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Definitely get her on BC. Also restrict any time her and BF spend in your house unsupervised. I made the mistake of believing/trusting our daughter and her BF were 'not having sex' and now am going to be a 44 year old grandpa...
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Old 10-30-2011, 12:23 PM
 
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the op's post was from 2009
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Old 10-31-2011, 12:10 PM
 
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A little revival is good for you!
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Old 10-31-2011, 01:14 PM
 
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my daughter is hanging around with unruly 17yrs old and has been in trouble with the police when i say anything shes angry and says thats why i tell you nothing she has also started lying to me were shes going and were shes been please help.
I can suggest what my friend with a 16 yr old tried. After repeatedly trying to nip some bad behavior in the bud with talks, she took away the car, the computer, and the cell phone. Her daughter then took the car without permission. My friend called the non-emergency police line, and asked if they would keep a lookout for the car, and, if spotted, escort her daughter back home. Sometimes your local police department can be very supportive. They don't want these kids to fall into bad situations. In this case, they did find the daughter, and followed her home. Then they spoke to her about the choices she was making. It seems to have made a difference, so far.
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