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Old 05-20-2009, 12:19 AM
 
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No. But I'm biased, too. My MIL badgered me for so long to leave my son with her for prolonged periods of time since the day he was born (okay, since the second week), so I naturally veer toward the cautious side when it comes to letting grandma take the child.

Stick to your guns. She isn't really going to have time with him anyways. Offer a long weekend (3 days) or to meet in the middle for a weekend--she can spend all day and evening with your son while you and your husband do your own thing, kind of like a mini vacation.
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Old 05-20-2009, 06:59 AM
 
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My son is 8 and there's no way he would be going away for a week while people were shuffled around to care for him if someone had to go to work, but I'm overprotective like that.
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Old 05-20-2009, 07:37 AM
 
Location: Aberdeen
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When it comes to your kids and stuff like this... trust your gut feeling. EVERY time we have gone against our first instinct, we have regretted it.
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Old 05-20-2009, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Fordyce Arkansas
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When it comes to your kids and stuff like this... trust your gut feeling. EVERY time we have gone against our first instinct, we have regretted it.
I agree with IHOP. Trust your gut feeling.
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Old 05-20-2009, 12:05 PM
 
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If your mother really wants to spend a whole week with him, then why doesn't she take a week off to do that.
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Old 05-20-2009, 12:11 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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If your mother really wants to spend a whole week with him, then why doesn't she take a week off to do that.
Now, THERE'S a thought!

Good point.
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Old 05-20-2009, 12:13 PM
 
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I was also wondering that about Grandpa. What kind of job is he on call for? His own business or an employer. Could he take the week off or would your child be able to go with him if he got called for a job?

Does your son even want to go? At 9 he would have an opinion and I wonder if he doesn't see them that often if he would even want to go. My kids spend a lot of time with my MIL but hardly ever with my mom and if I told them they were going to spend a week with her they would probably flip out. I don't blame them and I wouldn't make them go just because she wanted to see them.
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Old 05-20-2009, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Ca2Mo2Ga2Va!
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I wouldn't do it, how boring for your ds to get to hang around someone elses house all day alone waiting for them to get home from work so they can see him for a couple of hours a day. Can't she wait till she does get some vacation time? Or a long weekend?
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Old 05-20-2009, 03:36 PM
 
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I'd say no. Why have him visit if she is working? Isn't the purpose of the visit for her to actually see and spend time with him? She needs to schedule some time off, then ask for him to visit during that time.
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Old 05-20-2009, 06:45 PM
 
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My dad works in law enforcement and is always getting called out to work (there is no such thing as off duty with him) and my mom burned up all her vacation time because my grandmother tried to kill herself recently and my mom is the POA and had to deal with everything. So this is the only way she thinks she can see him until she builds up more time. But what if Grandma pulls another stunt and my dad gets called out....what happens? Its not like we can just quick drive over there in case of an emergency. My parents do not do well in those situations. They lost my son once at the mall and instead of going to look for him they stood there and argued over whose fault it was.
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