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Old 05-19-2009, 06:27 PM
 
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Here's the deal: My son is turning 9 in a couple of weeks. I'm thinking of having a simple pool party for him (that's what he really wants). If we invited his whole class (like pretty much everybody else has), it would be over 30 kids!!! I simply can't supervise or entertain 30+ kids in a medium sized pool for 2 hours! Quite frankly, I don't even think that it is very safe. I'm thinking of having the party after school is out for the summer. Do you think there will be a lot of hurt feelings/misunderstandings/anger??? Or should I bite the bullet and invite everyone (which includes kids my son is not particulary "best buds" with)?
What would you do???
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Old 05-19-2009, 06:40 PM
 
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I would invite his "best buds" only. That is just crazy people having the entire class come to their kids bday. Kids don't socialize like that. Those are just for adults who want to show off. If you don't feel you have anything to prove I wouldn't worry about it. My sons birthday is in the summer and it is going to be close friends only! Maybe just three other kids. Small, intimate and more fun for them in my opinion. And way less headache for me
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Old 05-19-2009, 06:43 PM
 
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I would invite the whole class, ask a few parents to help watch and just hope only half the kids show up - which I think is a typical turn out - esp in the summer.
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Old 05-19-2009, 06:45 PM
 
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wow- two very different opinions (with very valid points)!!! Any others???
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Old 05-19-2009, 06:47 PM
 
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I'd have a general party with the pool off limos and hold the pool party after school recesses for the summer. I agree that 30 kids and a pool is a recipe for disaster and possibly tragedy.
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Old 05-19-2009, 07:01 PM
 
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Our rule was the the party person invited his/her age in guests.

So in my house, a 9 year old would be allowed 9 guests.
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Old 05-19-2009, 07:17 PM
 
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We try to hold the birthday parties on the actual birthday so it is special. Not just any party.

We always invite the entire class to birthday parties.

I see no problem with 30 kids and a pool party but I would have at least one other adult. That way in the unlikely event of an accident, one parent, probably you can deal with the victim and the other parent takes charge of the rest of the kids.

My experience is that some parents will want to stay anyway so give them jobs. Cutting up fruit etc, watching the pool, dealing with drinks. We usually have a big water barrel with a tap as well as bottles of soft drink (only time our kids get soft drink is on special occasions and parties). Usually disposable glasses and a waterproof marker so they can write their names on the glasses. Don't forget tea and coffee for the parents. If you don't know any parents add

9 years olds love games and I would keep them busy with some games. I would start with structured games and gradually as the party progresses become less structured.

Also don't forget some kids won't or can't swim so I would have some non pool games organised. Or some non simming roles for pool games. Start with some swimming races. The non swimmers can be judges to see who wins. Another good game is throw some small objects into the pool and see who can retrieve the most. This is less structured so dont do it first. The objects can be thrown in by the non swimmers and score kept by them as well (Need a black board).
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Old 05-19-2009, 07:30 PM
 
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I think by 9, you are not inviting the whole class. Especially to a pool party. The "whole class" rule generally applies if you are handing out invitations at school only. Have him invite his close friends - however many you feel comfortable having. Send the invites in the mail and advise your son not to discuss the party at school.
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Old 05-19-2009, 07:33 PM
 
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I'd either invite everyone and point out that some parents need to stay b/c its a pool party, or just have him invite best buds. How does he feel? I talked my son into inviting only certain kids to his 9th birthday because there were some kids he did not get along with in his class, and I wanted him to have just friends there, instead of kids who were dragged there by their mom.

When my kids are younger, we invite everyone. My two middle kids are in K and 1st and you cannot pin them down on who is their friend. They like everyone. My 1st grader wants her teacher at the party. At this age, a lot of parents still stick around and we try to keep it low key, just outdoors with some fun stuff to do. As they get older and form friendships, we scale it back. When my son turned 8, we were in our first year at a new school for 2nd grade, and invited everyone (21 in the class and we got about 7 kids, all boys). The following year, we had a pool party at the base pool and invited maybe 12 kids? For his 10th birthday, he had a sleepover and we had 3 kids or so. That was his favorite.
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Old 05-19-2009, 07:40 PM
 
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I'd have a general party with the pool off limos and hold the pool party after school recesses for the summer. I agree that 30 kids and a pool is a recipe for disaster and possibly tragedy.
I agree. If one kid drown then you will be responsible. It is not worth it. And your child will get over it. Have a regular party for the whole class or a small one with his best friends in the pool. And bring a couple of parents to help you supervise.
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