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Old 05-21-2009, 11:07 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles
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Parents have the most difficult job in the world. What are your top three challenges as a parent? If you could wave a magic wand, what solutions would make you enjoy parenting more?
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Old 05-21-2009, 11:13 AM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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Dealing with whining kids
Dealing with irrational kids
Setting a good example
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Old 05-21-2009, 01:47 PM
 
Location: Living on the Coast in Oxnard CA
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Wondering how it applies to the LA forum? I understand that many in the area are parents, I for one have 5 boys and 1 girl. Just wondering how this question specifically relates to this forum?
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Old 05-21-2009, 05:23 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I would want:
More patience for those little things that tend to get under my skin. I wish I had the solution where I can really feel that patience instead of pretending I have it until I can escape for my own "timeout" and catch a few minutes respite.

More sleep. Or I'll fix that to say more restful, uninterrupted sleep. My husband and I have a great thing going with shifts. I take the night shift until 6 am, he takes the morning shift and gets the kids ready in the morning. I'm luckier than most I know. Still, I would love to be in a place where I can guarantee that I wont be woken in the middle of the night for nightmares, cup of water, or night wanderings.

A little more Me time.
I always find after an hour of Me time, I feel so recharged, and ready to take on the world (and kids) again. I'm happier, ready to get down on the floor and play, or whatever it is the kids want to do. When you go full out from morning until night, 5-7 days a week, without that break though, keeping up gets to be draining. I'd love to be able to schedule a 1 hour break in the middle of the day just for me, knowing the kids are happy and safe, and do whatever it is I want to do without worrying. I think it could make a huge difference.
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Old 05-21-2009, 05:45 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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Slow down and cherish every second I have with my kids.

Keep a good, healthy and strong relationship with my DH.

Find more time to take care of myself.
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Old 05-21-2009, 08:54 PM
 
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1. Transition days would be obsolete. The rules at my ex's are different and the swing back into my house is insane.
2. More time would be great. We do not have enough play time together.
School takes up a lot of time. So, even if I get a day off then I have to compete with the school. He gets off the bus at about 4PM, then homework, then dinner, then 8:00 bed time. Which brings me to
3. Loss of guilt. Sometimes it seems like in trying to achieve balance there are 100 voices that are saying, is that a nutrionally sound meal? Was there enough outside play time? Are we spending enough time together? Is he drinking enough water? Should I have grounded him more or less? Do I step in as a parent here or let him figure out the ins and outs of friendship? It is never ending.
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Old 05-21-2009, 09:04 PM
 
Location: Stuck on the East Coast, hoping to head West
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1. Knowing exactly how much freedom to give my teen

2. Along those lines, knowing when to jump in and when to let him figure things out on his own--even when I know he's making the wrong choice

3. Keeping quiet about the choice of boyfriend/girlfriend/relationship issues even though I *think* I know best
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Old 05-21-2009, 09:11 PM
 
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Slow down and cherish every second I have with my kids.

Keep a good, healthy and strong relationship with my DH.

Find more time to take care of myself.
ditto
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Old 05-21-2009, 09:15 PM
 
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1. Knowing how to adjust some traits of my kids - the extreme worldliness of my daughter, and the extreme softness/sensitivity of my son.

2. Knowing how not to lose the "two of us" within the family.

3. Thinking very far ahead, how to teach the kids to find their calling and stick to it, and how to withstand societal pressures.
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Old 05-21-2009, 09:38 PM
 
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Consistency, consistency, and, oh yeah, consistency.
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