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Old 05-24-2009, 10:03 AM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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If your kids had the power to change you, a magic wand or an Alladin's lamp, what would they wish was different about you? (Aside from being a billionaire, or having Oreos every day for dinner.)
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Old 05-24-2009, 10:35 AM
 
Location: Here... for now
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Excellent question! Thanks for starting this thread.

Ok, I'll bite. Hard to admit I'm not the perfect parent , but here goes . I think my son would have wanted me to "nag" less as he was growing up. Did you do your homework? Have you brushed your teeth? Why is your bed still unmade? Of course, if he had done the things I asked the FIRST time I asked, there would have been no "nagging". Personally, I think the "nag" tag is a guy response to not wanting to do things...

When he was young, I was fairly insistent about how he kept his room. Bed made (he had to make it, not me), everything put away (he had to stow it), clothes folded in drawers or hung on hangers in the closet (he had to hang them). Drove him buggy. As he got closer to teen age, I realized it was a losing battle and not worth fussing over (I kept getting the "nag" tag ). We compromised. As long as there no food in the room, he could keep it in whatever way he wanted. Needless to say, unless we had a showing, it was a wreck . Bed unmade ("I'm just getting back in later so why waste the time"), clothes on the floor (clean pile, not-so-clean but not-quite-smelly pile) and a happy camper living within.

Other than that, I think I was a fairly easy-to-live-with mom. And we have a GREAT relationship now!
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Old 05-24-2009, 02:20 PM
 
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My 10 year old dd would wish I was better at crafts, cooking & fixing her hair; able to do french braids, etc. I bet she wishes I were more sociable too as I tend to be a homebody and she wants to constantly be on the go! I think my 7 y.o. dd is happy with me the way I am, although there's probably something she'd change if I asked her...
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Old 05-24-2009, 04:45 PM
 
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Gee, Maja, looks like we're the only non-perfect parents on the boards!
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Old 05-24-2009, 05:53 PM
 
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I just asked my two sons this...

Five year old says "to serve us candy for dinner".
Seven year old says "to take us to more fun places". THIS after JUST returning from Busch Gardens today.
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Old 05-24-2009, 06:34 PM
 
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gee, maja, looks like we're the only non-perfect parents on the boards!
lol!
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Old 05-24-2009, 06:44 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, New York
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If your kids had the power to change you, a magic wand or an Alladin's lamp, what would they wish was different about you? (Aside from being a billionaire, or having Oreos every day for dinner.)
I think it might be for me not to go spend the ENTIRE WEEKEND at my boyfriend's apartment. She adores him but since I don't take her with me to visit very often I suspect she gets JEALOUS when mommy goes
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Old 05-24-2009, 07:30 PM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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I sometimes wondered if my kids would have preferred that I not be Aspergers. But we had close relationships, we were good friends, and I think they appreicated the fact that I didn't even know how to play mind games with them. What they saw was what they got. But because I was Aspergers, I probably embarrassed them a lot.
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Old 05-24-2009, 09:04 PM
 
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I sometimes wondered if my kids would have preferred that I not be Aspergers. But we had close relationships, we were good friends, and I think they appreicated the fact that I didn't even know how to play mind games with them. What they saw was what they got. But because I was Aspergers, I probably embarrassed them a lot.
They did not inherit Aspergers? I was under impression that it is hard NOT to inherit.
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Old 05-24-2009, 09:20 PM
 
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My daughter says she would wave her wand and not have a bedtime anymore. She loves me just the way I am.
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