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Old 05-30-2009, 07:20 AM
 
Location: Loudoun County, VA
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We've been running into parents going nuts when their kids say the word "stupid". Not about another person (i.e. you're stupid) but about an object, such as homework, being "stupid". Why is it a bad word? I keep hearing kids saying stuff like "oh shoot" or "darn it" (just a fancy way of saying that other word) all the time and their parents don't mind. So why the word "stupid"? Our child is only a toddler and we're starting to watch what we're saying around him. But "stupid" never crossed our minds as necessarily a bad word. What do you think?
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Old 05-30-2009, 07:27 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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I think it's up to each parent to decide what is considered a "bad" word in their own home.
If you don't like to word "stupid" then make that word a no no in your home. Every parent has different opinions on what they consider bad.
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Old 05-30-2009, 07:31 AM
 
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I think parents get hysterical over the wrong things. Kids are going to use the language that suits the situation for them. There is nothing wrong with the word stupid. Growing up, almost every kid used it and nothing bad ever happened as a result. Calling other kids stupid, or calling objects or activities, it doesn't matter.

Society isn't better off in the past few years than it was 20, 30, 40 years ago just because people are so insanely politically correct that we aren't allowed to breathe designated air anymore. In fact, society was more polite, considerate and proper back before political correctedness was invented. We were WAY better off when society wasn't so stupidly sensitive.

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Old 05-30-2009, 07:43 AM
 
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Think about this:

*Kids are no longer allowed to touch another person for any reason.

*Kids are no longer allowed to use any form of words that allow them to express frustration in a meaningful way.

*Kids are no longer allowed to make choices for themselves on how to solve problems.

*Kids are no longer allowed to exert their energy in any way except those ways that are pre-approved by the parent.

*Kids are no longer allowed to be kids in any way that isn't exact to the specifications of politically correctedness or pre-approved by the parent.

Don't any of you see the danger in this? Don't any of you understand that we, as a whole, as society aren't moving in a positive direction in the way children are being raised in the past 15 or so years? AND IT'S GETTING WORSE WITH EVERY PASSING YEAR !!!

In another 20 years, we will have a country so personally frustrated and unable to imagine, invent, solve problems and think on it's own that rape and murder will increase dramatically (simply for the fact that frustration builds from toddlerhood to teen and adulthood), and the younger generations will be zombies at the mercy of whoever is telling them what to do, how to do it, what to think, how to feel and what to say.

Unless parenting philosophy changes in a big way, we are in big, big trouble in the years to come.
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Old 05-30-2009, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Maybe it's bc the parents want them to better evaluate and articulate their dislike and frustration towards a certain thing...rather than just say 'stupid.'
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Old 05-30-2009, 07:49 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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Stormynight: I agree...kids need to have freedom to express themselves to reduce stress....I can see your point.
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Old 05-30-2009, 08:05 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Think about this:

*Kids are no longer allowed to touch another person for any reason.

*Kids are no longer allowed to use any form of words that allow them to express frustration in a meaningful way.

*Kids are no longer allowed to make choices for themselves on how to solve problems.

*Kids are no longer allowed to exert their energy in any way except those ways that are pre-approved by the parent.

*Kids are no longer allowed to be kids in any way that isn't exact to the specifications of politically correctedness or pre-approved by the parent.
Who are you talking about?
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Old 05-30-2009, 08:09 AM
 
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We never said the "S" word or "D" word in our home when it came to people. But stupid and dumb weren't considered bad words for other things.
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Old 05-30-2009, 08:10 AM
 
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Who are you talking about?
She's talking about the school systems. They're very oppressive of young children. They can't even hug each other in kindergarten.
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Old 05-30-2009, 08:12 AM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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She's talking about the school systems. They're very oppressive of young children. They can't even hug each other in kindergarten.
Mine can and do, and they always have. We've lived in three states, including California, which is famous for its litigious nature. I think it's important to keep a sense of reality, rather than magnifying the instance of a few overly sensitive people into some imaginary plague of oppression.
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