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Old 06-07-2009, 03:37 PM
 
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I was a teen mom.
All I have to say about it is, I'd have been a better mom if I'd know all that I know now.
That's not to say that no teen moms are good parents. I'm sure many are.
They'd probably be even better ones in another ten or twenty years.
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Old 06-07-2009, 05:49 PM
 
Location: Norwood, MN
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My daughter, age 16, got pregnant from a 14 year old. They wanted to keep the baby. The 14 year old got a job washing dishes, went to every single doctor appointment, was present at the birth and has turned out to be a stellar dad. Now my grandson is almost 2. He's happy, healthy, well adjusted and totally the darling of a whole group of teenagers.

I have to help them financially......but other than that.....they are great parents. I took the whole bunch to Disney World a couple of weeks ago. I've never been so impressed in my life in how they were just dedicated to make sure this child was happy all day long.

Maybe we should rethink the age qualifications of parents. Maybe true love is the only qualification needed. Maybe....just maybe....they are more mature than a whole lot of adults who find their kids as stumbling blocks in the road of success than kids who consider this new life a complete blessing.
I am glad to hear it has apparently worked out fairly well for you daughter and her boyfriend. But let us face it, this is EXTREMELY rare.
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Old 06-07-2009, 06:31 PM
 
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In the past when every 12 year old couldn't explain to you all the various positions, they weren't all getting pregnant
The teen preganancy rate declined 28% between 1990 and 2002 so I hardly think they are ALL getting pregnant.
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Old 06-08-2009, 05:24 AM
 
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Teen pregnancy so often creates another generation of problems. Babies being cared for by busy grandmas who are already over-worked caring for their own children... Babies being shuttled between houses from infancy... Less than optimal stability and supervision... All of these are ingredients to create the next generation of kids who will grow up without firm goals to guide them and end up making bad decisions.
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Old 06-08-2009, 06:13 AM
 
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did anyone really wait till marriage to have sex after they left home? Thats quite a wait for some people
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Old 06-08-2009, 06:57 AM
 
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We watched Taken last night "On Demand".

My dh and I discussed having our daughter watch it about age 10 or so... if the girl hadn't been a virgin, her dad wouldn't have had enough time to find and rescue her.

Perhaps showing it to all middle-schoolers would cut down on premarital sex!

Good message!
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Old 06-08-2009, 10:16 AM
 
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actually, I don't think having my 10 and 11 year old watch that movie is a good idea. For one, movies are movies for a reason. They aren't trying to promote any kind of awareness. They are only using the "issue" to make alot of money. I prefer the abstinence awareness programs that our kids can become a real part of. I prefer to teach my children about sex without going Hollywood style about it, because that is just another way of letting the world have too much say, it's really just another cop out, and our kids don't need anymore of those.
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Old 06-08-2009, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I cannot honestly imagine having a child at the age of 16,18 or even when I was in my 20's to be honest! I guess you have to give credit to where credit is due and that would be to the parents who supported their children,guided them is more the term I think I should use,through a pregnancy..
I was in late 30's when we adopted our first daughter and I was 40 when adopting our second.
I could not ever picture myself as a parent any younger,and certainly not in my teens.( I suppose if things would have happened the natural way, I would have "had" our children a LITTLE earlier,but...)

I do not know what I will do if either of my daughter's come to me as a teen with that news...
I know that I would like to think that I will be this accepting parent and guide them with as much grace and patience as I could, but honestly,I just don't know right now.
I do know that it would be a great disappointment to both their father & I.

Speaking as an older mom who did struggle with becoming pregnant,nothing would irritate me more or bring me to tears (depending on the day!) then walking through the mall and seeing the teens w/their friends and a baby hanging out with them... I selfishly would think "why in the world are they getting pregnant??"
Eventually I got over it, life is what it is... and I have 2 beautiful girls now,their mommy is a bit older than most of their friends,but oh well!
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Old 06-08-2009, 01:14 PM
 
Location: In My Own Little World. . .
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I cannot honestly imagine having a child at the age of 16,18 or even when I was in my 20's to be honest! I guess you have to give credit to where credit is due and that would be to the parents who supported their children,guided them is more the term I think I should use,through a pregnancy..
I was in late 30's when we adopted our first daughter and I was 40 when adopting our second.
I could not ever picture myself as a parent any younger,and certainly not in my teens.( I suppose if things would have happened the natural way, I would have "had" our children a LITTLE earlier,but...)

I do not know what I will do if either of my daughter's come to me as a teen with that news...
I know that I would like to think that I will be this accepting parent and guide them with as much grace and patience as I could, but honestly,I just don't know right now.
I do know that it would be a great disappointment to both their father & I.

Speaking as an older mom who did struggle with becoming pregnant,nothing would irritate me more or bring me to tears (depending on the day!) then walking through the mall and seeing the teens w/their friends and a baby hanging out with them... I selfishly would think "why in the world are they getting pregnant??"
Eventually I got over it, life is what it is... and I have 2 beautiful girls now,their mommy is a bit older than most of their friends,but oh well!
Older mom here, too. Now that my kids are teens I find that I have nothing in common with people my age who want to discuss their various medical conditions. However, I can text on my cell, go to concerts, spend weekends shopping for the "perfect" prom dress, plan parties and see movies with them I probably wouldn't be seeing if not for them. I have FaceBook and MySpace accounts. When I mention my age to my 17 year old daughter, she reponds with "oh mom, that's not you -- you're different."

In other words, being an older mom is good. Being a teen mom is not good.
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Old 06-08-2009, 01:15 PM
 
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actually, I don't think having my 10 and 11 year old watch that movie is a good idea.

I was being facetious
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