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Old 06-19-2009, 03:15 PM
 
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Will a parent please help me understand what is it like to not be able to have a relationship with your child because the ex took him far away and you had no say in the situation? This comes up at fathers day, my bf gets depressed, help me understand. thank-you.
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Old 06-19-2009, 03:22 PM
 
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Depends 100% on the 'dad'. Some care, some don't and some are in-between.

That was easy.

Next question.
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Old 06-19-2009, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Will a parent please help me understand what is it like to not be able to have a relationship with your child because the ex took him far away and you had no say in the situation? This comes up at fathers day, my bf gets depressed, help me understand. thank-you.
I don`t understand why the child was taken so far away from you in the first place? And you had "no say in the situation?"

Now, if I understood you right, your BF gets depressed?
You cannot call your own child, or send him a letter...letting him know that you both are thinking of him......not just for Fathers Day.
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Old 06-19-2009, 03:29 PM
 
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he had no say, no $ to hire a lawyer to stop her. she just took the kid. Im guessing he could get a message to the kid , but he wants a full relationship so he gets frustrated. I suspect he has feelings for the ex, too , which makes it all the more complicated.
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Old 06-19-2009, 03:34 PM
 
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he had no say, no $ to hire a lawyer to stop her. she just took the kid. Im guessing he could get a message to the kid , but he wants a full relationship so he gets frustrated. I suspect he has feelings for the ex, too , which makes it all the more complicated.
Hmmmm....This he and she has it all twisted. I`m confused.
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Old 06-19-2009, 03:40 PM
 
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Hmmmm....This he and she has it all twisted. I`m confused.
not sure what is confusing, I think in original post I called the child a he, it is a she, the mother is , of course a she as well and my bf is a he.
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Old 06-19-2009, 04:50 PM
 
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not sure what is confusing, I think in original post I called the child a he, it is a she, the mother is , of course a she as well and my bf is a he.
Ok....so, are you a He or she? lol.....
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Old 06-19-2009, 05:02 PM
 
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Tis not complicated...OP has a boyfriend that had a child with an EX who has taken said child away so that the father has no relationship with said child and is unhappy.

Whats not hard to understand?
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Old 06-19-2009, 05:05 PM
 
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First time i actually laugh out loud reading all the post LOLOLOL
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Old 06-19-2009, 05:20 PM
 
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OK, to help OP understand, which...I'd think wouldn't really be that difficult...

Some folks can disconnect...it may not affect them at all. Some will ache but carry on by burying it. Some feel like an arm has been cut off and they carry a phantom pain which never leaves them.

When there has been a healthy, loving connection and it becomes severed, it is removing part of someone's life. VOID. It's not like the agony of a typical relationship ending...think of anyone that means EVERYTHING to you (parent, sibling), that has for a very long time and on the most intimate, would die for level, and then imagine them being taken from you by artificial means, so that you no longer have them. The relationship may not be all that, but you get the idea.

That's as best I can do right now...time to make the donuts.

I'm glad that you are concerned for your boyfriend. Tell him. Show him. He will appreciate the support.
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