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Old 06-22-2009, 10:48 PM
 
Location: On the Ohio River in Western, KY
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Originally Posted by nicet4 View Post
You don't have to spank kids when a time out chair does better.

Spanking girls at any age is just plain wrong, gives the message it is ok for someone to hit them.

Come on people, grow up and be parents.
Time out chairs don't do @*$&@$& for some kids, they don't care.
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Old 06-22-2009, 10:55 PM
 
Location: On the Ohio River in Western, KY
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Just don't be suprised when your kid ends up as a rebellious teen, hits other people because he's learned its ok, or when he's finally gotten tired of it and hits you back to make you stop. Spanking does not help all kids. It didn't do anything for me. When the sting went away I just waited until the parents weren't looking this time to do it again Maybe it works for some, but not everyone.

My mother basically stopped when I was stronger and taller than her and she couldn't physically force me. Once she took a swing and I just caught her hand in midair and held it until she finally realized her son was physically stronger than her now and calmed herself down. Thats when it ended for good. She simply fell back on yelling and lecturing at that point.
Oh please. My parents busted my a** with Willow switches when I was a kid, and I am not a bully, nor did I ever think about being so disrespectful as to even think about hitting my parents back.

You can't use your own personal opinions to judge everyone. I was totally opposite of you, and spanking instilled in me the lesson of consequences for my actions. Now mind you, I was rewarded for my good behavior, and punished for my poor behavior. Too many people (kids and adults both) today, didn't learn or have forgotten that lesson.
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Old 06-23-2009, 12:30 AM
 
Location: cape girardeau
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Oh please. My parents busted my a** with Willow switches when I was a kid, and I am not a bully, nor did I ever think about being so disrespectful as to even think about hitting my parents back.

You can't use your own personal opinions to judge everyone. I was totally opposite of you, and spanking instilled in me the lesson of consequences for my actions. Now mind you, I was rewarded for my good behavior, and punished for my poor behavior. Too many people (kids and adults both) today, didn't learn or have forgotten that lesson.
Right on!!!
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Old 06-23-2009, 01:08 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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Stop being silly.

You know I never said that.
Then why did you trot out a male/female distinction in the first place?
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Old 06-23-2009, 01:13 AM
 
Location: Michigan
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I couldn't have said it better. The concept of respecting the authority of one's parents to punish seems to be alien to a lot of people.

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Oh please. My parents busted my a** with Willow switches when I was a kid, and I am not a bully, nor did I ever think about being so disrespectful as to even think about hitting my parents back.

You can't use your own personal opinions to judge everyone. I was totally opposite of you, and spanking instilled in me the lesson of consequences for my actions. Now mind you, I was rewarded for my good behavior, and punished for my poor behavior. Too many people (kids and adults both) today, didn't learn or have forgotten that lesson.
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Old 06-23-2009, 04:59 AM
 
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Oh please. My parents busted my a** with Willow switches when I was a kid, and I am not a bully, nor did I ever think about being so disrespectful as to even think about hitting my parents back.

You can't use your own personal opinions to judge everyone. I was totally opposite of you, and spanking instilled in me the lesson of consequences for my actions. Now mind you, I was rewarded for my good behavior, and punished for my poor behavior. Too many people (kids and adults both) today, didn't learn or have forgotten that lesson.
Neither did I. I was just pointing out that it could happen. Its an open forum, meaning its open to other ideas and perspectives from everyone.

As far as the judging based on personal exp... Don't we all do that to some degree just by posting on here? What someone calls judgement is just another person's honest opinion without any offenses intended, just a point of view we're free to have.

Have a nice day.
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Old 06-23-2009, 05:01 AM
 
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Time out chairs don't do @*$&@$& for some kids, they don't care.
same can be said for spanks.
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Old 06-23-2009, 05:06 AM
 
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I think most kids rebell.
To me when a person rebells, then they should be punished.
To me that is one advantage of a spanking. It shows they crossed the line.
At the same time, it is not the end of the world. They pushed the limit, they crossed the line, they got punished. Moove on.
Good thing the Colonials won the Revolution then I don't think our Founding Fathers would have learned anything from a proper British spanking lmao.

not to mention the myriad of other rebellions in history and the undergrounds in conquered countries during wars like WW2 that were secretly helping the Allies. mho, but once a rebel, always a rebel. They may calm down about it or become more descreet, but they are still who they are.

I know thats not what you meant lol. But its funny how "bad" things are considered okay if it serves someone's purpose... human nature.

Rebels are considered outlaws unless they win, in which they become heroes. Its all a matter of perspective.
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Old 06-23-2009, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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My SIL is the only one I have ever seen pull the pants down to spank. It made me cringe. When I had to spank mine it was usually open hand, clothes definately on. I never had to spank them much. I do believe you have to find what works best for each individual kid. Spanking never helped my nephew, but he spent a lot of days in time out.
My mom used one of those wooden paddles with the ball and string on my little bro. and her grandkids. I have the paddle now and it has all their names on it. Even if one never needed spanking, she would give a little tap just so they could get their name on the paddle.
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Old 06-23-2009, 10:38 AM
 
Location: NW Montana
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One or two swats on a clothed bottom, and only for a child under 6 or so, after one or two warnings did not curb the misbehavior. My eight year old is certainly too big to get a spanking for discipline... losing a precious hour of video game play (he gets two hours per day on Saturdays and Sundays only) is a much better deterrent, by far! My six year old will get one swat on her clothed butt if she's really out of control, but for the most part, she's outgrown that by now as well.

This is our house as well. We really never need to spank after they reach school age, and anything in toddler years is cushioned by a diaper.
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