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Old 07-01-2009, 08:56 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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I agree and I personally would most likely say something. But we live in a neighborhood where we've lived for years and know most of our neighbors pretty well. I would definitely want to know if it were my house and my daughter but there are parents who don't. Plus, it's not quite clear from the OP what she saw, which is why I'd be pretty careful in how I worded it. Things can look one way but turn out to be something different all together.
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Old 07-01-2009, 09:30 PM
 
Location: In a little valley under the Rim
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I would tell her, but as others have said, be careful how and when you tell her, unless you know her really well.
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Old 07-01-2009, 09:47 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I feel bad that you're in this position. How about sending an anonymous note to her Mom?

Thought about that too, we are in a neighborhood. A street lined with homes, she would not know it was us.
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Old 07-01-2009, 11:45 PM
 
Location: in a house
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Our neighbor is on summer break and will be a SR. in HS in the Fall.

Mom was out of town for a few days, on one of those evenings about 20 kids parked far down the street and all walked up to her home. There was a keg...

Anyway, we called the non-emergence police number but the kids all left before the police came . Perhaps they were dropping off the keg for the next evening or perhaps they were kicked out of another party.

Do I mention to our neighbor that this happened?
Perhaps you could remark on how quiet the party at her house was and how well behaved everyone was, given the size of the party, and that they even brought a large barrel for clean-up.
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Old 07-01-2009, 11:46 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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LOL! Perfect!
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:20 AM
 
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People nowadays are wierd, esp about their own kids. I'd mind my own business until it directly involved me and my property and family, then I'd have a right to say something.
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:26 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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Anonymous note to the parents...I wouldn't want teens to know I told...they can be very revengeful.
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:32 AM
 
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Anonymous note to the parents...I wouldn't want teens to know I told...they can be very revengeful.
Not a bad idea, just make sure you know the teens have no clue you saw them and be ready to drop the note off in the middle of the night since thats really the only time no one will see you (most likely) with everyone being asleep and the cover of darkness hiding you for the most part.

Also make sure the teen doesn't find the note first, otherwise that makes it a fruitless quest. Good luck.
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:33 AM
 
Location: Maryland Eastern Shore
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People nowadays are wierd, esp about their own kids. I'd mind my own business until it directly involved me and my property and family, then I'd have a right to say something.
How directly does it have to be? Run into your mailbox - run over your dog - run a stop light and kill someone? What is your threshold for "your own business"?

Puhleez - let's all stop worrying about being the popular fun neighbor parent and be known as the "not on my watch"
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Old 07-02-2009, 05:34 AM
 
Location: Southern NC
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Not a bad idea, just make sure you know the teens have no clue you saw them and be ready to drop the note off in the middle of the night since thats really the only time no one will see you (most likely) with everyone being asleep and the cover of darkness hiding you for the most part.

Also make sure the teen doesn't find the note first, otherwise that makes it a fruitless quest. Good luck.

Yeah...I'd mail it with a phony return address...
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