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Old 07-11-2009, 12:21 PM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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Yes, I can top that-

I love you

You are the best mom in the whole wide world

Are you ok mom?
I'm happy to say that it warms my heart to know that my few examples can be topped!
We hear so much about the problems of child rearing, but not too much about the joys. And they are joys we will carry for the rest of our lives.
I wouldn't be surprised if the children would feel the same way--closer to us because of the good times, when they told us how much they love us.
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Old 07-11-2009, 12:24 PM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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That's a tough one.....
trying to think of some things that haven't been said....'
Once, when DS (now 15 almost 16) was probably around 8, as I was tucking him in at night, he told me "Mom, I want you to know, I'm having an awesome childhood." That really stuck with me.

DD is not always one to verbalize sweet things like that but her actions speak volumes. A few years back I got extremely sick with a case of Montezuma's Revenge. Bless her heart, she was up literally all night with me. Certainly not the most pleasant of circumstances but not one complaint or disparaging word. Good as gold.

Parenting is so hard. We make decisions then we analyze whether the decision was a good one, if something else might have been the better decision. That happens a lot more as they get older and things are not as black and white as teaching them manners, safety or helping with long division. But the rewards, as you see with all of the responses, are incredible and can wipe away all the doubt and frustration in a heartbeat.
What an incredible son you have! He's not only thoughtful, but has a perspective on his life that usually comes only as we mature.

How old was your daughter when she stayed up with you all night? She is certainly a very special young woman.

I agree with your last statement. When we balance the hard stuff with the good stuff, the joys come out on top.
Thanks for posting.
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Old 07-11-2009, 12:26 PM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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This thread comes as my baby girl, my oldest, turns 17. In fact. I am sitting outside a movie theater waiting for her and a friend, because she wanted to perform her rite of passage: seeing a rated R movie without a parent! LOL The posts nearly brought tears to my eyes. The pp was exactly right. You can second-guess and analyze, and we all do, but in the end, it's those little things that let you know if you're on the right path. ~D
That's too funny. Some kids want to go out and buy beer or a lottery ticket the moment they are old enough.
Obvioulsy you have raised a trustworthy young adult and I commend you for that!
I'll have to ask my grown children what they considered their rites of passage. It was a long time ago!
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Old 07-11-2009, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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What an incredible son you have! He's not only thoughtful, but has a perspective on his life that usually comes only as we mature.

How old was your daughter when she stayed up with you all night? She is certainly a very special young woman.

I agree with your last statement. When we balance the hard stuff with the good stuff, the joys come out on top.
Thanks for posting.
Thanks! I am indeed blessed with great kids as are others on this board. DD was 17 when I was so sick. What made it so meaningful to me is that we had been in the midst of a very difficult year. We've always been very close but that senior year was REALLY tough. It really took a lot out of both of us so to have her so caring and protective....well, it really really meant a lot to me. That's when you know you must have done SOMETHING right ....
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Old 07-11-2009, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Victoria TX
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What I love to hear my kids say is "Why?" That is nothing that will serve them better in their lives than a mind that wants to know why things are they way they are. It's the essential first step to doing something about the way things are. which is the only way to make anything better.

Keep in mind that when a child asks Why, the last words he wants to hear are "Because I said so".
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Old 07-11-2009, 07:41 PM
 
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Mommy I feel that tickle right here again. (hand on his heart)
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Old 07-11-2009, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Nova Scotia
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1) you will always be my mommy (girls are 13 and 16)
2) my friends think you are the coolest and so do I
3) You understand me
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Old 07-12-2009, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Boerne area
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I'm an out of work school psychology specialist - sort of by choice. I haven't worked full time since my 9 year old was born, and only 1/2 time till my second who is almost 6, then not much at all. Anyway, much ambivalence about my lack of professional life, and lots of worry that my skills have atrophied. So I interviewed for a job recently; didn't get it, and was trying to shrug it off. A few days after the rejection letter, I was talking to my 9 year old about a playground issue he had. At the end of our discussion he said 'Mom, you should have gotten that counseling job'. That one sticks with me.
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Old 07-12-2009, 08:25 AM
 
Location: NH and lovin' it!
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Thanks! I am indeed blessed with great kids as are others on this board. DD was 17 when I was so sick. What made it so meaningful to me is that we had been in the midst of a very difficult year. We've always been very close but that senior year was REALLY tough. It really took a lot out of both of us so to have her so caring and protective....well, it really really meant a lot to me. That's when you know you must have done SOMETHING right ....
You know, that really points out something I learned along the way: Just because children don't always agree with their parents, doesn't mean the love and affection is not there.

Besides that, children need and sometimes appreciate boundaries and rules. They teach the child the "rules" and norms of everyday life and keep them safe... or as safe as possible without smothering them!!
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Old 07-12-2009, 08:27 AM
 
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What I love to hear my kids say is "Why?" That is nothing that will serve them better in their lives than a mind that wants to know why things are they way they are. It's the essential first step to doing something about the way things are. which is the only way to make anything better.

Keep in mind that when a child asks Why, the last words he wants to hear are "Because I said so".
Good point! I agree completely and have also told my kids plenty of times that intellectual curiosity is not only a sign of intelligence but will serve them well.
Thanks for posting!
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