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It never worked with my kids. Sure they tried it but I always gave the "Do not mess with me" look and they stopped. From and early age my girls knew they could not mess with me and if they did it would not work. I was always firm and stuck to my guns. As my parents did. I think some parents lack the "I don't give a Sh%t" chip. Every parent needs one in my opinion, otherwise you get walked all over.
Lol, exactly! That is what made us twice as ticked off, because our kid KNEW better. Ooooh...we were steaming.
Oh come one...My children are typically angels in public. They do not fight, cry, throw tantrums, add crap to the cart, or run in the stores, they don't even "forget" and begin to do any of these. I would only expect that from my three year old, in which I would not react with telling him to walk, I would react by telling him "Time out. Right now, where you stand. You know that running in the store is dangerous." (or whatever the action.) But you only have to do that once or twice before they decide that public humiliation is not what they want.
No my daughter was three at the time and was mimicking the exact behavior and tone of voice that little girl had. I made a point from then on to point out the commercial and state what a bad little girl she was and what a bad mother for allowing the behavior and not encouraging he little girl to eat healthy. Kids do copy behavior that they see...from their parents, (gasp! yes and the more evil the parent, the more evil the child), other kids, and what they may see on TV or even from others in public. This is also why I will point out those bad moments and say things, in front of the problem to make sure my kids know exactly what I'm talking about, "Isn't great to see a parent working so hard to teach their child manners." OR " THAT is the exact behavior I will NOT see from you. If you ever dared do that, what do you think would happen?" "We'd get a time out." "Yes. But that parent is allowing the behavior so it is really their fault the kid acts like that."
It was the commercial and we reacted swiftly to stop the behavior. It just sucks that you try and watch a channel safe for your children and get so much crap loaded into it.
Of course kids mimic behavior they see whether on tv or elsewhere. That wasn't quite the point I was trying to make. The real issue is NOT tv. It's how the parent reacts to the child's behavior when it is unacceptable.
Almost all kids watch tv. Some of them are poorly behaved, others are not. It is how their parents react to the undesireable behavior that determines whether they are well behaved NOT whether they watch tv or not.
It may be tv that begins a particular behavior, but whether that behavior persists depends on whether the parent takes time to extinguish the behavior.
Let's not blame tv for all the evils in the world.
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...all that much harder?
I remember a pedia sure commercial with a cute little girl that sat in the cart and said "I don't like broccoli. I don't like chicken." But then smiles when pedia sure is added to the cart. Of course our daughter doesn't see the product, just that it seemed that after the girl acted like a little snot, she got what she wanted. Our daughter started that in the store. We were firm but she thought if she kept it up it would work, which it did not. So the next time, we started putting in the stuff she wouldn't protest to and took them out one by one when she tried to reject the healthy choices. It finally stopped. Ooooh...it ticked me off.
Anyone else remember things like this?
Personally i think it was when shows like Good Times and 7th heaven which portrayed strong parental figures gave way to shows like my sweet 16 which kids could disrespect their parents and get whatever they want.
Of course kids mimic behavior they see whether on tv or elsewhere. That wasn't quite the point I was trying to make. The real issue is NOT tv. It's how the parent reacts to the child's behavior when it is unacceptable.
Almost all kids watch tv. Some of them are poorly behaved, others are not. It is how their parents react to the undesireable behavior that determines whether they are well behaved NOT whether they watch tv or not.
It may be tv that begins a particular behavior, but whether that behavior persists depends on whether the parent takes time to extinguish the behavior.
Let's not blame tv for all the evils in the world.
I agree wholeheartedly about not blaming all the evils in the world on TV. I do agree its all in how the parent reacts when the kid acts like this. We did the right thing and the behavior stopped quickly, maybe not in the first 10 minute shopping moment but in the next longer one, we made the point to extinguish it immediantly and it worked great. We also made a point to start bashing that commercial (a combination of pointing out why its unhealthy and "that bratty little kid," and "what a bad mother!"), and other similar ones, everytime they came on to make sure that our kids got the right message.
My point is it sucks that advertisers have to be so stupid in actually discouraging healthy choices OVER their product which in turn leads to that lesson where kids turn down healthy choices to get what they want. That irked me, we handled it well, but it still irked (irks) me just the same.
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