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Old 04-26-2007, 02:31 AM
 
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18 is rather youthful.
A young guy might think about sex a lot, but he might not want the responsibility of a one-on-one relationship. Maybe he's a discriminating guy, and doesn't want to mess around just for the sake of doing it, or maybe, as you say, it is a confidence thing.
My older son (23) had dates here and there but never had a *serious* girlfriend until this year.
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Old 04-26-2007, 05:11 AM
 
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How many young women are attracted to a 275 lb guy? You know how it is.
Most people at that age are all about the physical looks. Give the kid some space, eventually he will connect.

Second, at age 18 we were walking hormones. And its not like he's going to run up to his grandparents and say, OHH! Did you see the bazookas on that babe! Maaaan, she is HOT! or GEEZ, Mom and Dad, I've GOTTA get laid this weekend! Wooo-hooooeeeee. You know any hotties that need a OOPS, time for self-moderation.
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Old 04-26-2007, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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How many young women are attracted to a 275 lb guy? You know how it is.
Most people at that age are all about the physical looks. Give the kid some space, eventually he will connect.

Second, at age 18 we were walking hormones. And its not like he's going to run up to his grandparents and say, OHH! Did you see the bazookas on that babe! Maaaan, she is HOT! or GEEZ, Mom and Dad, I've GOTTA get laid this weekend! Wooo-hooooeeeee. You know any hotties that need a OOPS, time for self-moderation.
You are too funny!!
He has just recently gained the extra weight. He is in college for game design and works at radio shack. He isnt into alot of physical activities, never has been. At this point I am more worried about his weight than if he is interested in girls or not.
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Old 04-26-2007, 08:25 AM
 
Location: Springfield, Missouri
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My oldest as far as I know has not had a girlfriend. He like girls, caught him girl on girl porn as well as some others,has alot of girl pictures, but no girlfriend. I know he is self conscience about his weight. He is 6'2 275, but is cute with a great sense of humor. He is in college and working. My mother is wondering if he is gay and keeps harping about it. He swears that isnt the case and he knows we wouldnt care. My dad says he is just a late bloomer ( he does tend to act immature sometimes. Any guys out there late bloomers as well, or know of them.
I'll bet your son just feels extremely self-conscious and shy around girls his age because of his weight. If he dropped 90 lbs or so, I bet he'd be a new man who would emerge with confidence and girls flocking to him. Keep in mind also that colleges are full of great looking people in great shape of all varieties and it can be very intimidating because college students are much like high school students...hooked on appearance and peer judgement.
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Old 04-26-2007, 10:45 AM
 
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If it is all that important, why doesn't somebody just ask him what he wants?

H,mmmm something is not right, according to all those around him. Duh, just ask him. Seems simple enough to me. Maybe he wants some help getting a blind date, maybe he is happy like he is, maybe he just loves porn. Hey, them girls on girls can't be all that boring.

I would think 18 is far to young for anything "Serious". What does a guy that young want with all this nonsense being pushed today? They get to watch you like a hawk, demand this standard, that behavior, search your computer, maybe give him a blood test, have some doctor mess with his head. Pump out lots of conflicted messages.

Yup, if I was 18, I would just say leave me alone. I would guess if he wants a girl at all, it would be a low maintenance type. Last thing he wants at his age is a prego far less than mature GF. If he really wants the real sex thing get him a fling with a much older woman for his first serious affair. Boy will that cycle the moral majority but it is the safer approach for a dude that wants to take it slow and easy, he is still a bit young for even that adventure. Been done far more than many peeps want to acknowledge.

And forget knowing about all his business. Folks need some space at all ages.

I might be very content to let him go as he is for another few years till at least 21. Nothing wrong with a solution that does nothing in today's World, way to many ways to get into trouble.

Plus you didn't say if he has a lot of guy buddies. Some guys just prefer guy buddies to a certain age. Some don't like to be messed with by anybody. Just let him develop his way.
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Old 04-26-2007, 10:57 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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I have asked him, he just shrugs. He does have alot of guy friends and girls as well. Not at a loss there. His friends are trying to set him up, not interested. I just let him be, I am trying to get my parents to back off as well.
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Old 04-26-2007, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Missouri
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18 is so young! Who cares why he doesn't have a girlfriend. Good for him for focusing on his education and working at this point in life. Dating would probably just be a distraction.
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Old 04-26-2007, 03:56 PM
 
Location: PALM BEACH, FL.
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18 is so young! Who cares why he doesn't have a girlfriend. Good for him for focusing on his education and working at this point in life. Dating would probably just be a distraction.
That's what I'm thinkin'

I'm also thinkin'...................does this guy know that people across the nation are talking about his love life, or lack thereof?
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Old 04-26-2007, 04:14 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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I hope he doesnt regret missing anything in high school like the prom and such , he didnt go no date. I was having him on graduation day, so I missed it. I missed prom, too pregnant.

And he doesnt even know about this website or that I am on it, so he doesnt know we are talking about him.
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Old 04-27-2007, 10:00 AM
 
Location: N.Y.C.
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i wouldnt worry and i dont think its a late bloomer type of thing most 18 year old guys that i know dont want to have girlfriends and would rather just play the field
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