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Here is my dilemma, I currently leave in Florida and I am dying to relocate for many reasons, jobs, education, crime etc. I have shared the info with my kids 17 and 12 and they are devastated of the though that they might leave their school and school mates. Am I being selfish with my plans? I think about my kid’s sadness and think that. Has anybody been in this situation?
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We moved from Fl to NC two years ago for a better job. My kids were 18, 15, and 6. The oldest was not a problem because he was off to college in NC anyway. My 15 year old was okay with the idea until we actually got a job and were packing the house. I think she was more terrified of starting over than anything else. I can tell you that moving to a different high school is not easy. If I were you, I would wait until your 17 yr old graduates. I am guessing he/she is going to be a senior? That's got to be the worst time to move a child. If at all possible, meaning you aren't going to lose you house or something. wait till the end of the school year.
The 12 year old will adjust. Find a good school and get there before school starts in the fall. Be kind and understanding for at least a year. It takes time to make new friends and friends are the most important things in life at this age. There will be good days and bad days but eventually life will go on.
We moved from Fl to NC two years ago for a better job. My kids were 18, 15, and 6. The oldest was not a problem because he was off to college in NC anyway. My 15 year old was okay with the idea until we actually got a job and were packing the house. I think she was more terrified of starting over than anything else. I can tell you that moving to a different high school is not easy. If I were you, I would wait until your 17 yr old graduates. I am guessing he/she is going to be a senior? That's got to be the worst time to move a child. If at all possible, meaning you aren't going to lose you house or something. wait till the end of the school year.
The 12 year old will adjust. Find a good school and get there before school starts in the fall. Be kind and understanding for at least a year. It takes time to make new friends and friends are the most important things in life at this age. There will be good days and bad days but eventually life will go on.
Yes, that is the plan for him to finish his senior year. Thank you!
Lucky you could move and hope I can do that too.
Because we were not residents of the new state for a certain time?
It usually takes a year to be considered for in state tuition. We paid out of state for over a year with my oldest. Make sure you do things like change your car registrations, drivers license, voters registration, and the like right away. Almost everything is based on the date you do these things. Also keep track of the exact day you are hired for a new job and the day you sign a lease or contract on a house. We made in state tuition by 2 days for the spring semester. Had we moved those two days later we would have had a whole semester more of out of state. You ususally can't change in the middle of a semester so every day counts if you are close to the beginning of a new term.
The residence requirements for tuition vary from state to state. Often, community colleges have much less restrictive rules, so if the state you move to is hardnosed, there might be a community college where he can get credits before transferring to a 4-year school.
It usually takes a year to be considered for in state tuition. We paid out of state for over a year with my oldest. Make sure you do things like change your car registrations, drivers license, voters registration, and the like right away. Almost everything is based on the date you do these things. Also keep track of the exact day you are hired for a new job and the day you sign a lease or contract on a house. We made in state tuition by 2 days for the spring semester. Had we moved those two days later we would have had a whole semester more of out of state. You ususally can't change in the middle of a semester so every day counts if you are close to the beginning of a new term.
Where are you headed?
Considered Charlotte or Raleigh but I think it will be Dallas.
Here is my dilemma, I currently leave in Florida and I am dying to relocate for many reasons, jobs, education, crime etc. I have shared the info with my kids 17 and 12 and they are devastated of the though that they might leave their school and school mates. Am I being selfish with my plans? I think about my kid’s sadness and think that. Has anybody been in this situation?
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I remember being a teen, and I would have been devastated to have to move at that age. Kids go through a phase where friends are as important, if not more important to them than their family. I would never voluntarily move while my kids are in high school, and would try hard to avoid it up until then. I would at the very least let the 17 year old finish HS first, then maybe move before the 12 year old starts HS.
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