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Does it seem odd, all these people getting agressive about the wrong agressive behaviour of someone.
What is that teaching our kids.
Something seems wrong here.
As I read it, an adult in a car was in the bus lane.
The child who was helping, asked the driver to move on,
The driver yelled or swore or something,
The driver did actually move on.
The kid reported the car number plate to the cop (sounds like an appropriate thing to do)
The kid was a bit distraught and talked about the incident with mom.
Mom went ballistic (like the guy in the car)
Kid learns - when someone goes ballistic, then the adult thing to do is go balistic too.
Fast forward to when the kid is 16
Out on the town. had a drink or two.
someone says something to them they say a few words back.
A few fists maybe a knife and gun and someone is really hurt.
So I say all you lot calm down. Look at your selves. Look at the message you are giving.
I think the mom should have simply given her daughter a hug for dealing with the situation and reporting the details.
Pretty close here except Mom was completely cool about it and I'm sure gave her BIG hug. I got the call at work so my child didn't see me get angry (and she really has never seen me get really angry). That's why I had my wife go back down to the school after the incident and not me. I don't want my kids to think any of that type of behavior is ok. As I stated I just couldn't believe some man I've walked by, said hi to almost daily could pull something like that to one of my kids. What a Neanderthal. My kiddo will be getting a great big hug from me tonight for doing the right thing.
Okay, I see... so it was/is the Dad that posted here about being unable to control himself.
Well, in that case, my opinion changes...
The Dad/OP has anger issues and serious overreacted to hearing a third hand account of a 3 second moment of his daughter's life.
Yes, that would be me, thanks for the armchair quarterbacking. I will say this, some of you are making me feel much better about where I live as flipping off children isn't normal around here. For that I give you a
Interesting World we are leaving for our kids. I never ever will accept someone treating my kids with that kind of disrespect and abuse.
And this isn't about 3 seconds, we are going to see this scholar every day so we'll see how things work out.
to the OP, I would be mad too, but like it seems you have done, I would not let the child know it had me too upset, that it was wrong of him but that she should not take it personally..some people are rude, that it is not her fault and she handled herself well.
Basically I hete to tewll you but the courts have ruled thast its no longer disorderly conduct to flip the finger to anyone;sad but true. But you need to talk to your daughter and explain about rude ;uncivil behavior. She is going to run into this alot in her lfe with teh way teh world is now. By the way the reason the copurts ruled that is they rukled it is a common speech of the people now days ;telling you what speech has become in this country.Look at the post above that might explain why also.
Yes, that would be me, thanks for the armchair quarterbacking. I will say this, some of you are making me feel much better about where I live as flipping off children isn't normal around here. For that I give you a
Interesting World we are leaving for our kids. I never ever will accept someone treating my kids with that kind of disrespect and abuse.
And this isn't about 3 seconds, we are going to see this scholar every day so we'll see how things work out.
I do not believe that anyone (in their right mind) is asking you to accept someone treating your (or any other child) like that. You are correct, it was a very rude and senseless act. As I stated earlier, you now have the ability to control how this situation plays out for your daughter. Show her how a respectable and intelligent parent is suppose to act. This world is not perfect and there are indeed crazies walking around. . .and one day she will have to face a world/neighborhood outside of that which you are currently living. And she will encounter another ignorant person. Your goal is to teach her early how to deal with these types of individuals without perpetuating negative behavior.
OP, please don't listen to most of the "angry" posters. Most of them probably don't even have children. Any parent, who loves their child, would be upset when their child is treated badly.
It was wrong for an adult to flip off a child. Problem is there are a lot of adults who have never matured and have anger management problems. That doesn't mean their actions should be excused and I can see why a parent would get upset.
But you can't fight, stab, shoot, every person that acts like a moron.
I would use the incident as an opportunity to teach the child that there are some ignorant, bad,
not normal people in the world and she will probably run into one of those types every now and then throughout her life and let her know that the best way to handle them is to ignore their foolish actions.
Unfortunately, it is a fact of life and if a person responds or retaliates to every foolish action of other people they will eventualy lower themselves to the level of those ignorant people.
I'm not talking about being physically harmed. That's another matter. That demands action.
But to respond to words or gestures from idiots is a waste of time.
That goes for parents responding also.
If someone puts there hands on her, or tries to cause injury, then you kick their ass.
If I had a nine-year-old daughter and an adult man flipped her off, I would be angry and upset, too.
My daughter is 15 and if a man flipped HER off, I would be upset.
It's perfectly natural.
Well thanks for the well wishes and the criticism. It's not like my kid hasn't seen the bird before. We've all seen it in traffic, on the tv, etc. but to have another school kid's Parent do it is rather painful.
She has handled this well and we'll see how this guy behaves when we run into him on a daily basis. I would hope this guy isn't foolish enough to confront her or myself for that matter. That might be a whole different post.
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