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Old 10-12-2009, 11:27 AM
 
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This is just not for me right now. I cannot handle this. This is just stressing me out.
Hi, I am a student myself. I also had many classes and many essays and projects that were not directly "tied" to my career - but I did all of them. Even though sometimes I am not interested in a particular subject that is not related to my career ( sometimes i'm not interested in a particular class that is related to my career as well) - i tried to find something fun in it.

My husband went to college right after high school. He then realized that college was not for him at that time, so he dropped out, and took a 2 year break - he worked during that time. Although he was making decent money, he decided to pursue what he always wanted - mechanical engineering, and not electrical engineering because his Dad is an EE ( when he first went to college, his major was EE ). He also felt that it was the right time to do it. Anyway, after a two year break, he finished college last December.Although an excellent student, he had a hard time finding a job, because of the economy, but he finally found an excellent job.

So, maybe you need to take a break, and work for a while...Then reevaluate your college situation...

When it comes to your 3rd class, I would definitely drop it. Being that you are behind on your other two classes, this one will probably be the same...You'll just waste your money.

Good Luck to you in whatever you decide.
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Old 10-12-2009, 11:37 AM
 
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I was thinking the same thing re the choice of forums - my take is this:

the OP has mentioned that her dad is not in the picture, her mom is uninvolved or self involved or whatever....If she really wanted advice on her education or career path, she would be in the Education forum...I think honestly, she wants to be parented. The answers may not be what she wants to hear, but they are the same answers I would give my own daughter (who is the same age)...She may take some, all or none of our "words of wisdom" (LOL) but they are at least words of involved and caring parents.....just my .02.
That's fine to turn to the parenting forum for some parenting. The OP also needs to understand that parenting not only includes guidance but sometimes also includes a swift kick in the rear and telling them to stop being a whiny baby.
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Old 10-12-2009, 11:58 AM
 
Location: Northern NH
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The OP sounds like they belong in junior high school for goodness sakes. This sort of whining is just what I would expect to hear from a 12 year old This person is a parent.....are you kidding me
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Old 10-12-2009, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Denver area
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That's fine to turn to the parenting forum for some parenting. The OP also needs to understand that parenting not only includes guidance but sometimes also includes a swift kick in the rear and telling them to stop being a whiny baby.
Exactly my point.
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Old 10-12-2009, 12:24 PM
 
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Middle school prepares you for high school.

High school prepares you for college.

College prepares you for life.

If you're struggling this much, it's a sign that you need help, or you're still growing emotionally and mentally to a place where you will be able to handle the realities of life as an adult. If you're struggling this much with only two classes, I definitely wouldn't take on a third. It might take you longer to finish your degree, but it sounds as if you need a bit more time to grow and mature a little. The extra time spent earning your degree would be good for you in many ways.

SmerkyGrl might have come off as being cold or rude... but it's actually the cold hard truth, to be honest. Sometimes - actually a lot of times - with life you just have to put your personal feelings aside and step up to the plate and do what needs to be done.

Whining and griping just wastes valuable time and also makes you appear childish (which might be one reason you're not getting callbacks from potential employers? Attitude and how you present yourself is a big thing... and often it's not so much what you say, but how you say it...).
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Old 10-13-2009, 03:10 AM
 
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Life is just not easy right now.
I have no motivation.
I spend most my time crying.
This past 4 days I have been super sick. About to get off in a second because I can feel the aches and chills returning.

I just cannot handle the stress and responsibility that goes with school right now. My head and heart is not in it and I cannot just frivolously spend money on something that right now I can't put 100% into it.

I need to handle the other aspects of my life and keep my priorities in order.

I would LOVE to be off at college, living in the dorms, experiencing life. I really do want to take that 3rd class, its a sociology class.

But I do not want to run the risk of failing my classes.
I am too stressed right now.

And not many of you are listening when I say this part. I keep saying that there are OTHER bigger things that are bothering me that I am not going to discuss. There is a lot going on right now.
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Old 10-13-2009, 07:34 AM
 
Location: Northern NH
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Life is just not easy right now.
I have no motivation.
I spend most my time crying.
This past 4 days I have been super sick. About to get off in a second because I can feel the aches and chills returning.

I just cannot handle the stress and responsibility that goes with school right now. My head and heart is not in it and I cannot just frivolously spend money on something that right now I can't put 100% into it.

I need to handle the other aspects of my life and keep my priorities in order.

I would LOVE to be off at college, living in the dorms, experiencing life. I really do want to take that 3rd class, its a sociology class.

But I do not want to run the risk of failing my classes.
I am too stressed right now.

And not many of you are listening when I say this part. I keep saying that there are OTHER bigger things that are bothering me that I am not going to discuss. There is a lot going on right now.
Oh please! If you are going to be a police officer you will suffer huge amounts of stress. Go check yourself into the hospital and get a new line
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Old 10-13-2009, 07:50 AM
 
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Life is just not easy right now.
I have no motivation.
I spend most my time crying.
This past 4 days I have been super sick. About to get off in a second because I can feel the aches and chills returning.

I just cannot handle the stress and responsibility that goes with school right now. My head and heart is not in it and I cannot just frivolously spend money on something that right now I can't put 100% into it.

I need to handle the other aspects of my life and keep my priorities in order.

I would LOVE to be off at college, living in the dorms, experiencing life. I really do want to take that 3rd class, its a sociology class.

But I do not want to run the risk of failing my classes.
I am too stressed right now.

And not many of you are listening when I say this part. I keep saying that there are OTHER bigger things that are bothering me that I am not going to discuss. There is a lot going on right now.

You keep talky talk and I see no worky worky. Sorry, I really don't see you being an officer if you can't even handle the ground work. Get out while you can.
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Old 10-13-2009, 09:01 AM
 
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Life is just not easy right now.
I have no motivation.
I spend most my time crying.
This past 4 days I have been super sick. About to get off in a second because I can feel the aches and chills returning.

I just cannot handle the stress and responsibility that goes with school right now. My head and heart is not in it and I cannot just frivolously spend money on something that right now I can't put 100% into it.

I need to handle the other aspects of my life and keep my priorities in order.

I would LOVE to be off at college, living in the dorms, experiencing life. I really do want to take that 3rd class, its a sociology class.

But I do not want to run the risk of failing my classes.
I am too stressed right now.

And not many of you are listening when I say this part. I keep saying that there are OTHER bigger things that are bothering me that I am not going to discuss. There is a lot going on right now.
Ok. I have read your posts from before and I remember a very excited and very motivated individual. It took me a minute but I have come across your posts. If you truly feel that you cannot handle the third class then don't take it. I want to share something with you. In my sharing something with you, I am not saying that you can do it because I can. I am not making a comparison between your life and mine. I am not saying that my life was overall rougher or worse or anything like that.

I left my ex on November 30, 2003 with a two year old and escorted by 5 police officers out of our house. We went to a domestic violence shelter. I was in school. In those quarters, with so many people everyone came down with the flu. Be that as it may, and with nobody there for support. I finished that semester. In that time zone, I went to school, and worked full time and dealt with any and all issues that were presented. I'm talking finding new living quarters, stalking issues, etc. Sometimes, I seemed to carry it off very well and sometimes it was a real PITA. I was always behind. Even if I was right on time, I felt like I was not. It doesn't change.

I don't know how to help you find your own passion to continue. My suggestion to you is that if you need help finding ways to cope with an issue then state the issue. If you are drained and are not into writing a paper then state what the paper is supposed to be about and perhaps there can be a bit of brainstorming. If you really just want to vent then let it be that and state so. People cannot guess what is ailing you.

For instance if you find that your mind is clogged up with other things perhaps you can ask for techniques to get rid of all the crap. A writing trick that others have used is to get up and write for 5-10 minutes of everything that is going through your mind and it does not matter if it makes sense or not. The object is to clear your mind. If you write a post in the writing forum there are others who are far more qualified to give you other techniques.
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Old 10-13-2009, 10:28 AM
 
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I don't want anything handed to me. I want to be taking my CJ classes. If I am going to be putting my time and effort into something, I rather it be something I feel is very important.

I feel like I am running in circles. I want to get on with life and not be so stuck in this position.
If you want the minimum of "extraneous" courses, perhaps you should talk to a military recruiter about being a cop in the military. You will get training, probably with the least amount of extraneous material because they don't want to waste money teaching you something not directly related to what they are paying you to do, and you will get paid and sheltered during it. You can sign up for the shortest enlistment possible for that career field, and then when you get out, you will have an advantage to getting hired by a police department.

You will also have free medical and dental care. And tuition assistance, and later, the GI Bill, so if you do decide the criminal justice degree (and all of the core academic subjects you don't care to take now) is worth it, you will have some money to do it without worrying about your grandmother helping or what your mom has to say. In fact, there are college reps on base that can help you with that if you do it while you are AD. There are online courses, 8-week formats aimed at the busy military lifestyle, even courses while deployed (my husband taught an EMT basic class for a college on the post while he was deployed to central Asia for OEF).

About the original inquiry - if you are getting close to failing the classes you are taking now, and don't see any way of pulling yourself out of the hole, you might just want to dump the 3rd class. Be forewarned though that after the first time, it gets easier and easier to drop and withdraw from classes, or to take a lighter load. This drop could be very detrimental to your college career because of that. If it is going to mean saving your GPA and you know you will buckle down next semester (and not skip the semester), I think it could help to drop. Having read your previous posts though, I worry that this would be the first step towards you not reaching your goal to get into the Police Academy.
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