On Baby's care

[MaimounaKande]

Most women on here have argued they basically HAVE to work financially. I would just like to add that there should not be any shame in a woman admitting she WANTS to work, that she does not need the money, but wants to work.

Very few things in life are black and white.

[dncngrl1964]

Originally Posted by jco

I agree with what they said. I teach part time and am actually going to stay home now and sacrifice the money. It breaks my heart to leave him, and he stays with his grandma!

being that you are a teacher I wonder if they ever did a survey on the first day of Kindergarten
how many kids walked right in
and how many clung to mommy's leg

I wonder if there is a correlation to the fact that they already had the experience of being separated at a younger age when they were more forgving to the fact or maybe they just thought it was the way it was.

I was a stay at home mom for my son who is now 7

I get at least 3 calls a week from the school nurse telling me my son is in the office sick
I talk to him on the phone
he misses me and wants to come home

I wonder if I had separated myself from him when he was younger if this would be a non issue

I am not picking on you I just thought you may know as you are a teacher

[tahiti]

Originally Posted by MaimounaKande

Most women on here have argued they basically HAVE to work financially. I would just like to add that there should not be any shame in a woman admitting she WANTS to work, that she does not need the money, but wants to work.

Very few things in life are black and white.

You're exactly right - funny how it's perfectly ok for a man to say "oh NO! I could NEVER stay home full time with my kids" - or that they "love their job" without being labelled selfish or materialistic.

Interesting also how a lot of rabid SAH'ers also call their husbands "babysitters" - e.g. "my husband is babysitting tonight while I go play bunco" - but I digress.....

[okaydorothy]

Happy children are the product of happy parents. We did a mixture of everything, daycare, friend, stayed at home for the winter, brought the kids to work with me. Been there, done that.

Now they are 7 & 8 and are in school fulltime and after school they come to work with me. Is it the best situation ; nope, as I know they would prefer being at home playing. But its the best we can do as we have no family here and I dont want to put them in aftercare everday.

We just have to do the best that we can.
dorothy