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Old 05-11-2007, 09:39 AM
 
Location: Twin Cities
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At what age did you tell your kids about the birds and the bees? I realize that every child matures at a different rate and can only process so much at a certain age. My daughter is a little past 8 years old and this morning I got the impression that it might be time to talk about sex. I approached the subject and she got very uncomfortable with me. So I know this is something she and her mother will have to discuss privately.
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Old 05-11-2007, 10:23 AM
 
Location: lumberton, texas
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I have talked a little here and there with both of my kids as they started asking questions. IMO the "big" discussions should be left to the same sex parent but the opposite sex parent also needs to be involved. Dad has recently started having small conversations with our 11 yr old girl. She doesnt want to hear much from either one of us so we take lots of opportunities for 5-10 min converstations. I dont know if this is the right approach but so far it is working.
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Old 05-11-2007, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Just a few miles outside of St. Louis
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Oddly enough, not only did I talk to my daughter, (I think she was about the same age), but I also talked to my son. His first talk, (and they always started with small bits of info), was probably about when he was 7, because his older sister, (my husband's daughter from his first marriage), and her husband were expecting their first child at that time. His father also talked to him, but I have talked to him more. I don't think that my husband ever really broached the subject with our daughter. I found that casual conversations, usually in the car, (a captive audience, heh, heh), were the best time to talk to my kids, actually about all sorts of subjects. My son is now 20, and we still talk. But, I am fortunate that I am very close to both of my children.
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Old 05-11-2007, 11:12 AM
 
Location: NW Atlanta
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At what age did you tell your kids about the birds and the bees? I realize that every child matures at a different rate and can only process so much at a certain age. My daughter is a little past 8 years old and this morning I got the impression that it might be time to talk about sex. I approached the subject and she got very uncomfortable with me. So I know this is something she and her mother will have to discuss privately.
whenever they ask a question Hoosier
answer it as delicately as you can
do not think it is anyone elses responsibilty (not saying you do)
if you think that you cannot get to a proper answer for them
tell them you will have to get back to them on it
discuss it with your wife and brainstorm your approach for the answer

there is no certain age
they will let you know when they need answers
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Old 05-11-2007, 11:51 AM
 
Location: Between Here and There
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At what age did you tell your kids about the birds and the bees? I realize that every child matures at a different rate and can only process so much at a certain age. My daughter is a little past 8 years old and this morning I got the impression that it might be time to talk about sex. I approached the subject and she got very uncomfortable with me. So I know this is something she and her mother will have to discuss privately.
My first child was turning 5 when I was pregant with my second....this of course brought up questions. So I answered them matter of factly in detail and with pictures. No problem. Then a few years later at 8 he had a few more questions...answered them again no problem. Then this year (he was 10) he finally asked the big question..."How does the sperm get into the mommy to get to the egg?" This is the one I had very nicely avoided. So I answered again very matter of factly explaining exactly what intercourse was and how the egg and sperm get together. His response was, "That's just gross mommy." Well hopefully he still thinks that for a few more years or so...he will be 11 on Sunday.

This is a good book to help in the explanations: What's the Big Secret?: Talking about Sex with Girls and Boys, by Laurene Krasny Brown

There are others as well and I suggest you get one for the illustrations...a picture can be worth many uncomfortable words.
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Old 05-12-2007, 11:40 AM
 
Location: Happiness is found inside your smile :)
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I think it's different with girls

My family our women start their periods early - my mom was 9 (I was 10)

So we needed to know about the birds and bees and EXACTLY what was going to happen to our body BEFORE it appeared.

So I knew EVERYTHING by age 8 (my mom was worried I'd start at 9 years old like her) At that young I knew what my body would do and what is was made for. It's scary - but back in the 50s when mom was clueless and her period started every month - she thought she was dying and NOBODY would talk to her about it - she felt so alone. And she wasn't going to let that happen to me

Now my best friend who has an 11 year old daughter hasn't told her a THING! And it makes me furious the way she avoids it. Her daughter found one of my tampons on a visit to their house and she SCREAMED and cried when I told her what it was for.
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