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Old 05-19-2007, 05:25 AM
 
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I am the PROUD father of 3 children. An older daughter and a set of twins, boy-girl. I was wondering how many in here are blessed with multiple births.

When I tell people about having twins and they are boy-girl, you would be surprised at how many ask, "Are they identical?" They always feel silly when I say, "No, my son has a penis and his twin sister doesn't".

But I digress...who has twins?

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Old 05-19-2007, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities, CA
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Yeah, what is it with the identical question? I like your response.

I have a set of fraternal girls; they are 8 years old now. They have 4 older siblings and 3 younger. One is olive-skinned, chubby and long dark hair; the other is fair skinned, light hair and slender. Yes, they looked more alike as infants, but I was shocked that once people realized they were twins, they couldn't tell them apart.

I have a local friend with an older daughter and then boy-girl twins.
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Old 05-19-2007, 07:40 PM
 
Location: SD, VA, West Texas--staying awhile
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I do, b/g age 13 months and just beginning to walk!! I took them to the park today and met a Mom with 2 y/o b/g twins. They were playing on a fenced in tennis court with all their toys-ride on toys, balls etc. What a great idea! Big area to ride that's safe and they can't get out! I'm going to try it next week! I also just ordered a red wagon with 2 seats--can't wait until it arrives! How old are your twins?

oh yeah I've gotten the same question about fraternal/identical too. People often ask me if I like my twins! Ah, yeah, I do kinda love them too ya know! Weird, I know.

Pam

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Old 05-20-2007, 06:16 AM
 
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I have DS14 and 12 year old b/g twins. We got the identical question a lot too even though DD has brown hair/eyes and DS is blonde/blue eyed. Heck they don't even look related let alone identical. The first time I was asked this was in the hospital by one of the nurses . I asked if she was taking care of them and she said no. I said good but she got kind of huffy about that .

One day when the twins were about 2 months old I was at the grocery store with them and a lady came up and asked if they were both mine...yes, they are twins. She got all huffy "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". I explained that they were fraternal twins and she continued on that twins had to look alike to be twins...ok, whatever. SHe followed me around the store telling me that there was no way they were twins. Finally I looked at her and said "you know what you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She replied "HA, I knew it" and walked away.
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Old 05-20-2007, 08:49 AM
 
Location: NW Arkansas
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We have 5 year old identical twin boys and a 3 year old boy, and the 3 year old's birthday is 4 days before the 5 year olds' birthdays...that's a busy week for us at birthday time!

I think the weirdest thing we have had said to us about our twins (before our younger son was born) is that our twins are "like a set; each a half a person". Ummm...what?? This was said to us by a clerk at a store...we avoided her like the plague after that one.

The other funny thing is that I have had more than one person ask me if my 3 year old and one of our 5 year olds are twins (or if all three are triplets). My 3 year old is about a head shorter than my 5 year olds!
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Old 05-20-2007, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Twin Cities, CA
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I have DS14 and 12 year old b/g twins. We got the identical question a lot too even though DD has brown hair/eyes and DS is blonde/blue eyed. Heck they don't even look related let alone identical. The first time I was asked this was in the hospital by one of the nurses . I asked if she was taking care of them and she said no. I said good but she got kind of huffy about that .

One day when the twins were about 2 months old I was at the grocery store with them and a lady came up and asked if they were both mine...yes, they are twins. She got all huffy "they can't be twins, they don't look anything alike". I explained that they were fraternal twins and she continued on that twins had to look alike to be twins...ok, whatever. SHe followed me around the store telling me that there was no way they were twins. Finally I looked at her and said "you know what you are right, they aren't twins, we just had our kids really close together". She replied "HA, I knew it" and walked away.
Good Grief! People love to comment on/critique other people's children: you have too many, too closely spaced, don't look enough alike, etc. I have 9 kids and a stranger actually asked me if they were all from the same father; a little too personal, if you ask me. She really followed you around the store?
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Old 05-20-2007, 02:34 PM
 
Location: coos bay oregon
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i agree people can be freaky. My oldest was a micropremiee and when we brought her home at 3 1/2mnths, she was barley 5lbs and about 15inches long. We had this woman follow us all over the mall, demanding to hold her, and said she wanted to be her babysitter. When she actually tried to take my daughter out of my arms, I totally flipped and we had security escort her out.
why is it that people feel they have the right to ask the most absurd questions, especially if you have multiples/premiees or the sort?Someone actually asked me if I had my daughter early (at 27weeks) on purpose because tiny babies are so cute (!?!?)(this person has obviously never seen a new premiee before. lol) My friend has triplets and she gets asked just the most off stuff. One person actually asked her if she had thought about having at least one adopted out since 3 were so much work!!! OMG. rude! One woman waggled her finger at her for having the "nerve" to have 3 at once!! Ummm, okay...lol, one person asked if they were "naturally made children" and my friend said "Oh, no, only one is, the other two are just copies of her we had made" LOL!!!!!

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Old 05-20-2007, 05:45 PM
 
Location: NJ
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Default Me!!!

I am!! Twin 9 year old (birthday is today!) fraternal boys - I've been asked that same question a zillion times also which cracks me up because...... my one son is olive skinned, brown hair, 10+ lbs and 3.5" taller than his twin. My other son is fair,fair,fair - fair skinned, blond hair (and obviously 10+ lbs LIGHTER and 3.5" SHORTER). They don't even look like brothers.

People have asked me how I could tell them apart...I'm like "Uh...I look at them?"


Having twins is great!
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Old 05-20-2007, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Johns Island, SC
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We have identical twin boys and while they don't look exactly alike to me, nobody outside of myself, my DH and their sisters can tell them apart. I totally think it's nuts to assume twins have to look alike to be twins and what do people think identical twins are if they ask if a set fraternal boy/girl twins are identical? We don't always dress our boys the same but even when I do people have asked us are they twins, or are they identical? You tell me...

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Old 05-23-2007, 05:34 AM
 
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We have some friends that have twin girls that are 15 now. Since the girls were babies everyone was telling them that they were identical because NO ONE could tell them apart. The mom/dad laughed at everyone because they couldn't see how they looked so much alike to everyone else. Well, the girls did a twin study at the University of MN a couple years ago and they ARE identical.
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