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Old 06-18-2007, 12:47 PM
Location: Manchester, NH
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I think it all depends on how responsible and independent you are. I moved out at 18 before I graduated high school. Luckily I moved in with 2 people who were accomadating to my situation of still being in school and I didnt have to pay rent although I did clean, do dishes, helped out with what I could etc. to help out. I had a job at $10 an hour and paid for all my own things though. Now Im 19 and go to college and work at the same job for $11 an hour. I still have one other roomate and share more responsibilities. I buy most of the groceries, pay the heat & cable bills amongst my own personal buys. I still have plenty extra each month to buy other things that I 'want' compared to what I 'need'. Ive never asked either of my parents for money since I moved out. They didnt want me to go but supported me in my decision. When something with my car comes up I take care of it and sometimes that means going a week with little food or not enough money to hangout with people and do things but oh well, thats life!
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Old 06-18-2007, 06:34 PM
Location: Anchorage, Alaska (most of the time)
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As an 18-year-old, I also feel the almost owerwhelming need for independece and freedom, but I also know that it comes with a high price.
Since my father left us when me and my brothers were very young, the only one my mother has had to talk to has been me. So I know all about paying bills, how the budget can really crash for months to come becasue of unexpected accidents etc (leaving you not being able to do other things than just the basics of living) and how expensive everything actually is.
It's not like you can just throw away that piece of bread simply becasue it doesn't taste as fresh as it did when newly bought. If you do this on a regular basis, you'll end up desperately looking through the garbage, trying to find those pieces of bread.

Life is expensive and difficult, and eventhough I long for freedom and a place on my own, and eventhough I am mature and responsable, I will cherish the time I have left living with my family, because I know I will miss it/them when I no longer don't.

As said before: living with your parents is only a very short period in life - make sure you cherish it.
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Old 06-18-2007, 06:39 PM
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Originally Posted by Alanboy395 View Post
as an 18 year old, i feel your need for independence. but trust me you aren't ready to be out on your own. i'd love to be out of my parent's house, but with rent for 1 bedrooms in decent areas starting at $1000 in the DC area and my take home pay of $1050-$1250 a month i have no business threatening to move out. sure, i could stay at one of my friend's houses but they are in very undesirable areas and i don't who they really be runnin wit off the clock. and cost of maintaing a car and health and auto insurance will scare you into staying at home if the rent dosen't. If you go away to college for 1 year you will wish u had the convience of being home. and lisa is right about getting at least a 2-yr degree. i'm trying to find another job now and like 70% of firms won't even call me back b/c i don't have any degree and i live in a stellar job market. this will probably change when i finish my 2-yr degree. so i think u should live it up and do everything while ur parents are paying the tab.
I'm with this guy....Anything I could add would only pale next to what one of your own peers has written! (And who says kids aren't wise sages...?)
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Old 06-19-2007, 01:42 PM
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You are legally an adult, now. You have every legal right to move away from your parents at age 18, just as they have every legal right to kick you out of the house and not provide for you.

If you really want out of the house, you can go.

Now, whether you should? Heck, I dunno. Other posters seem to be chiming in on that one, so I'll leave them to it...
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Old 06-19-2007, 01:51 PM
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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I wish I could live with my parents and have them drag me from one place to another that I find boring. I would cherish every moment. But, I have 3 boys of my own and a husband to take care of. (Husbands are boys too!) I now have the joy of making my 15 year old come on our outings. We are going on a 2 week camping trip in 2 weeks and he doesn't want to go. I told him "you are coming and make sure you don't have fun or smile once!!" Trust that your parents know what they are doing and some day you will look back and wish life could be so easy again.
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Old 06-19-2007, 01:55 PM
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You are 18. You are welcome to say and do whatever you want. Just be prepared for some serious consequences for your words and actions.

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Old 06-19-2007, 02:29 PM
Location: Washington DC
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Communications have you tried talking to you parents. just maybe they might understand where you are coming from.
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Old 06-19-2007, 02:50 PM
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I was in your situation once and I moved out on my own (and a couple thousand miles away) so it can be done. BUT I learned very quickly that it wasn't all fun and games. Sure it was fun for the first couple weeks but then I started to realize that "Hey, I need to pay for rent, insurance, food, entertainment, cell phone, clothing, and numerous other bills PLUS the cost of college". I had a credit card and it was a huge mistake, I spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on stupid stuff (alcohol, partying, fancy clothes, new gadgets) and my parents finally had to bail me out. They said they told me so and I admitted that they probably knew what they were talking about when they said making it on your own is harder than it seems.
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Old 06-19-2007, 10:04 PM
Location: Far Western KY
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Parent house - parents rules

Your house - your rules .... oh and your electric bill, water bill, food bill, cable bill, phone bill, internet bill, cell bill, housing bill, insurance bill, tax bill, gas bill, laundry bill, clothing bill, auto maintenance bill, car payment, and a few others.

Welcome to the real world ...
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Old 06-19-2007, 11:10 PM
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Of, course, if you read this thread: How to motivate a 19-year-old?! Half the people on there are saying to kick the kid out.

Maybe it would be wise to question how long you can get that free ride, anyway... But, you know you're parents better than we do.

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