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Old 06-20-2007, 07:02 AM
Location: FL to GA back to FL
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Originally Posted by dncngrl1964 View Post
I know your parents are grouchy

so were mine
and now i am a grouchy parent
and eventually you will be a grouchy parent too


I am ROFLMAO...so funny, and so true as a mother of an 19 year old son.
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Old 06-20-2007, 09:48 AM
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Unless there is something wrong (abuse, verbal physical mental) or substance abuse or other red flags..then honestly why leave? LOLOL. Where do you want to go...you didnt mention that..is it that they want to you get a life and go to college or something? Because that is not a bad thing.

Is it because you want to go to a college that they dont want you too? We dont know that.

I can understand if you want to move out of state and go away to a college or something and they want to keep you at home..then I would say..assert yourself and take out the student loans and go to the college of your choice.

But if they are saying quit clubbing and drinking all the time..sorry no sympathy here because guess what.. THATS WHAT PARENTS ARE SUPPOSE TO DO!!!! LOLOL.

Personally..enjoy the free ride and make something of yourself while they are not complaining about it. Tell them that you want to go to college but need their help..and if they cannot help..let them know you are taking a loan, but are willing to help out around the house and pick up a part time job to help with expenses...HOW PROUD WILL THEY FEEL and you will too at your responsibility!
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Old 06-20-2007, 10:56 AM
Location: No city lights here
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at 18 I thought I knew it all too
I left home same age ..different reasons .. finish school follow your parents rules

Hun there is plenty of time to be grown up and do things your way ...and after you are grown up and able to do something your way .............there will be someone elses rules!

Finish your schooling behave and listen to your parents ............ the only reason I would say yes u should move on is if you were being abused! That is another topic!!

I wish I had parents that supported me, helped me finish High school (I DID) and go through college(I was offered a full scholarship ..and they wouldn't fill out the papers) so I struggled to finish college to get where I am now!

The road has many bumps ..no need to make more of them!

Enjoy being a kid!
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Old 07-18-2007, 11:30 AM
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Default Truth


I just happened to read this entire page and I must say that there are a lot of bias parents in here. I know that some of you 18 year olds feel like you really need to leave your home for a while. And all you parents are telling them that that is a stupid decision and that they should rethink what they're about to do.
Truth is, different things work for different people. Some of you parents might feel like your life would have gone completely wrong if you chose to move out... but that is not the case for all of us.
Sadly, sometimes it is necessary to move out and fail to realize you weren't quite ready for such a big leap. However, it can be a great eye opener for those who are ready. Some 18 year olds need a push into responsibility.
It's true that you will live in complete comfort as long as you are with your parents...there's no complaining there. Nevertheless, I believe that a young adult, who decides to face the world alone and is determined to survive, will begin to appreciate what he or she makes and has.
Really what it all comes down to is knowing yourself and finding the determination and confidence within you to make such a large decision. The worst that can happen is you come running back to your parents begging for them to take you back in… That’s not so bad. You just have to be willing to admit to everyone that you messed up. From what I have read here, parents tend to like when their kids admit that they need mommy and daddy!!
For all you 18 year olds who really feel like you can handle it, I say GO! Make sure you plan out everything really carefully before you leave, including money and all that sort of stuff. Be prepared to be hungry and homesick… But have the determination to make it work! That’s how we all learn… we have to push ourselves out of our comfort zones.
As for the parents, I know it’s hard to watch your children leave and possibly fail miserably but in the end they will always be your children. You love them, but if a baby bird wants to fly then you have to let it take the chance… Either they fly or you have to pick them back up and put them into the nest. How will they ever know they can live and grow if they don’t try?

Hope that makes sense!!!! Love you all!
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Old 07-18-2007, 04:25 PM
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You will very unlikely be able to make it on your own at your age out of the hopuse, especially if you wish to continue high school. You do not want to not graduate high school either. Having only a high school education doesn't cut it very well in todays world. You would be responsible for every aspect of your life, rent, utilities, clothing, medical, car, gas, insurance, you name it. We have 4 children, one age 4, 2 teenagers, one 20. The rule is as long as you are home you do what you are told. Once you go then it is your life.
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Old 07-19-2007, 02:53 PM
Location: Bike to Surf!
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Man, I don't think any of you remember what it's like to follow someone else's rules because you have no choice. Freedom is priceless at any age after 17. Whether it's from a nanny state, or your parents. You say "free ride" but it's actually a "gilded cage." I'm lucky, I had parents that understood the worth of teaching your child to be independant gradually. Of course, they probably also were ready for some peace and quiet since my mother and I fought like pitbulls from the time I turned 16. I moved out at 18 and went straight into school while working part time. I handled the extra expenses of rent and school (local tuition, so it was possible without too much hardship) Within a few months my mother and I were back to loving each other to death like when I was 10 (as long as we didn't spend too much time together). Before I knew it, I was totally independant and very grateful to my parents for all that they did and for figuring out how and when to let go.

Ask your parents to sit down and talk with you about your future. Maybe they'll support you moving out of the house. Explain to them that you need to learn how to live on your own, even if it costs "the family" extra, it's an expense that is worthwhile. Volunteer to get a job and pay at least some of your rent and bills (if not all). The alternative is that they keep paying for you forever. Kids need to learn how to be independant, and 18 is a good time to get out.

Oh, but while you live in their house, you do what they say. That's motivation to get the heck out, for those kids who won't leave home.
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Old 07-20-2007, 11:10 AM
Location: NEW JERSEY
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You're way too young to move out. Enjoy high school. If you're itching for a little indepence, go to a college far from home so you can live in a dorm.

I'm only 23, so it wasn't long ago that I was in your shoes. My parents definately still liked to tell me what to do when I was 18, 19 and so fourth. Only for the past year have they finally accepted me as an adult, as i now really am one, having a degree and a career. Now I go as I please, come home when I want, date who I want no questions asked, besides the occasional where are you going? Just because they are curious.

But when I was in high school and even college (when I came home for breaks) they still tried to have a lot of say. And looking back, they had every right. I really was a kid (just because you're legally an adult, doesn't mean you are mentally). You feel like you're a hot shot at 18 ( i definately thought i was! i mean why not, I could drive and was not in high school anymore what else did i need?), but you're not. You're gonna grow up a lot over the next 3 years or so and then you will realize the difference. There are problems that exist in the world that high school can't prepare you for.

You'll probably be happier in the end if you keep a good relationship with your parents and use college as your escape to find a little independence.
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Old 10-28-2008, 03:38 PM
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You should move in with your boy/girlfriend and get a job at a 7 11 and build up your nest egg. Once you have about 20000 bucks, you should get into some low income housing. By this time your going to be 21 so you can stumble into your parents house drunk off you ass and brag about your five children and how much of a success you have become : ) AHHAHAHA
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Old 06-02-2009, 07:50 AM
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Enough Lets talk about real law. What is the law when you do move out because of the abuse of your brother and parents,Thank God My best friends parents have allowed me to stay their,But I have nothing.Will the police escort me in there to get my stuff.What is the law in MD?
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Old 06-02-2009, 08:01 AM
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Originally Posted by babycakes18 View Post
im 18 year old and i still going to high school. but i still live at home. i just want to know if i have the right to say im not going somewhere when i dont want to. but my parsents say i have to go like(they are making me). i been think about moving out and still going to school. but my parsents think it a big mistake of my life . they think i can't make it when i say that i just want to see if i can make it for a few days without my family there all the time.
Here's the deal. If you think you can move out, support yourself and pay for school then go ahead and do it. But before you do, check your numbers. If you want to be on your own then you have to be completely on your own. That means you need to make enough to pay:

Insurance (health and car)

If you can do that then move out. If you can't and your parents are helping you by giving you a place to live (and possibly more) then you have to live with their rules. Nothing comes without a price.
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