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Old 05-28-2007, 06:36 AM
 
Location: In the sunshine on a ship with a plank
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I agree with the time out- then ignore. I believe a minute per year is what is recommended. I used to put mine in a little chair in the corner- facing the corner. He couldn't stand it!
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Old 05-28-2007, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Rocket City, U.S.A.
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I'm just hoping that those who opt for ignoring their children while JR throws a fit mean only inside their own houses and not in public...


RIGHT?

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Old 05-28-2007, 04:58 PM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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If you're in a public situation when this happens, go to a restroom or out to your car or whatever....don't punish everyone else in the store or restaurant to make a point, but don't give in. I'm sure anyone in any public place who has had a child will understand your dilemma - we've all had kids that did this.
Yep, can't be stressed heavily enough....now airplanes are another story! Don't get on one with me, the Worst Child In The Universe always sits behind me...
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Old 05-28-2007, 05:40 PM
 
Location: In the sunshine on a ship with a plank
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I'm just hoping that those who opt for ignoring their children while JR throws a fit mean only inside their own houses and not in public...


RIGHT?


Agreed- never ignore when the child is annoying othersl.
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Old 05-28-2007, 07:28 PM
 
Location: State College PA
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Yep, definately not in public. Every time I bring my four year old somewhere (with or without the 2 year old, they're definately worse together!), the whole way there, at least 2 or 3 times,
"what's the rules?"
"if we're bad we leave!!" (and he always adds..."and we can't go back!")
"are you going to be good or bad?"
"GOOODDD!!"
And, thank goodness, 95% of the time, he is. And if he's not, then we leave!
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Old 05-28-2007, 09:30 PM
 
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mbuszu, I'm not spanking him. I'm asking for help because I don't want to spank him yet; I'd like to find other strategies for behavior modification.
Why do you plan to spank at all?
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Old 05-29-2007, 02:59 PM
 
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I agree with Sam I Am's every word. That's the best advice ever, IMO.

Ignore! I know it's easy to say. It may be heartbreaking to listen to your own child scream and cry. I know, been through this. But my son learned his lesson quickly. Yours will too, if you're consistent.
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Old 05-29-2007, 03:59 PM
 
Location: among the chaos
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The biggest thing, CONSISTENCY CONSISTENCY CONSISTENCY!
This is, by far, the biggest problem for most parents. We tend to discipline one time for a certain offense, then NOT discipline the next time for the same exact offense...this does nothing but confuse the child. You have to be consisten EVERYTIME if you want to be effective

Hope this helps!

This cannot be said enough. I have 5 and I think I have to relearn this lesson at least once a month! I also like what someone else said...set the rules first. This might be hard with a one hear old, but I think it's important for a child to know the rules of the moment. If you are going to a store, what is allowed. Tell them up front and stick to it. I also think that a real hard one for parents is when you go "over board". If you don't stop that right now, we're leaving the store. (Now your child know that the probability of leaving the store when you have a basket full of much needed groceries is pretty unlikely, but if you say it, you better do it!!!!!)
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Old 05-30-2007, 01:28 PM
 
Location: NW Atlanta
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My son is one and seemed to suddenly begin with little fits. I really don't feel that he'd make the connection between spanking and his fit. Does anyone else have advice on what to do when he throws a tantrum for not getting what he wants. In comparison to many toddlers, his tantrums are nothing, so I don't really have to worry about not being able to physically control him. Still, I don't want him to protest like this!
Usually when a 1 yr old has tantrums it is because he can't express himself completely to let you know what his issue is he can't say what he wants or portray to you the importance of the issue

This usually (I say again usually) let's up when the learn to talk better

don't worry though a whole new set of tantrums will start with a whole new set of rules
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Old 05-31-2007, 07:44 AM
 
Location: Chattanooga TN
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All of the above posters have some great ideas. Redirection was and still is a favorite of ours, even at age 3. Sometimes the time-in theory is just as good to calm me as it is for my lil one Often I have had to just walk away to keep from pulling out his little toenails! One thing we did to reduce his frustration was teach him some simple sign language to communicate (****, eat, thirsty, banana, etc...). You would not believe the difference this made. Good luck!
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