5 year old talking back

[berries]

Have dad using his "dad" voice tell him it in not acceptable, in no uncertain terms. I have 5 sons and when I put in my dad voice they know I mean business. You will not talk to your mother, my wife , with that tone young man....ever...do you understand me??? Look at me. I mean it. It is unacceptable. Now apologize to your mother.


Works EVERYTIME

I think they get offended. I am not talking about screaming, but a stern...this does not work around here and never will ...lecture seems to work. Keep it short and nver let em see you smile when you do it. It is hard not too when you see the offense in there eyes, but it is effective and non threatening

Taking things away never worked as boys are very inventive and can play with anything and be happy, I mean a stick, a pillow, a peice of lint...it does not matter to my kids if I withdraw fun toys, they just make their own!!!

Good luck

[maggiekate]

what if you get a chart-gold, silver, green, and red stars. It goes to the point system.

5 you in a week get gold, 4 silver, 3 green, then red-takes away 5 points. You earn them, by saying please, thank-you, etc. to reedem them it may take so many, for a treasure. as to save money for! You may earn, some in a week, then also, they be taken
back, as at work vacation days etc. You need it to be fun. However, work, is not fun. 5 bad manners takes away from the income earned.

[maggiekate]

they also do need to chart how, they earn stars, which only get posted on a Saturday.

They, also, need to learn why, a red star takes gold away. If it is fun, maybe gold will win. And put down why a gold star is lost. no points for 2-striving for green etc. Not you, they do need to learn this.

[aomething]

I asked my son to come over to see me for a minute, he yelled out "No". I very sternly told him that I did not appreciate the tone that he used when he spoke and that I didn't like being spoken to like that. I told him that it hurt my feelings. He immediately came over to me, hugged me and said he was sorry for speaking to me that way and said he wouldn't do it again.

I was so surprised to hear that from him! Maybe there is hope!

[Granny Sue]

One of the things I picked up from one of my s-i-ls was when my son would tell me he wanted something and used his smart mouth voice(this is the term we came up with)
I would say to him...are you asking me or telling me? He made the mistake of saying 'telling you" a couple of time...I would come back at him and say, Then I suggest you ask me nicely instead of telling me.

He learned quickly that if he wanted something he had to ask nicely.

I can't say I had many problems with either my son or my step-son. I caught it early. I just wouldn't allow them to talk to me like that.

[aomething]

We're having better days lately with our son. He's happier doesn't argue and even climbs up in our laps to watch a movie. He has a loose tooth and it was bothering him today, so he got to eat ice cream for a snack before supper tonight. Poor thing!