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Old 03-04-2010, 11:51 PM
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Originally Posted by formercalifornian View Post
Great post, and good for you and your daughter!

I currently have a close friend who occasionally cares for a 15-month old with an obvious developmental delay when his regular caregiver needs a day off. Several experienced parents who have observed the child, including a physician, have commented on his hypotonia and suggested the my friend advise the parents to seek out evaluation. The parents continue denying that there is a problem and refuse to do anything. With every week that passes, he is falling further behind. My friend has helped him make some progress with basic OT, but he needs professional intervention. I wish the parents could see it, but it appears that they just aren't ready to admit that their son needs help.

To mine, too.
Sometimes the parents have to be ready to admit that there is/could be a signifigant problem. My daughter is thirteen now and is profoundly autistic with hypotonia and moderate to severe mental retardation. When she was an infant neither my husband nor I wanted to admit that there was a problem with her development. She was not our first child either. There were three ahead of her. We just told people that she was a "lazy baby". Then after she had her MMR vaccine she began to exhibit what I now know are symptoms of autism. Prior to that she had met some developmental milestones, she just met them very late. Looking back we realize that she had delays all along, but she was a very social happy baby.
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Old 03-05-2010, 06:59 AM
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thank you for all your help and concerns. my dd is 7 mths and a week and still cannot roll over, sit unassisted or show any signs of crawling.
my mom keeps saying it's not a big deal if babies are late in developing milestone...
do u guys think it's maybe my daughter has a BIG butt and she's pretty meaty around her hip area so it's harder for her to roll over or even sit.
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Old 03-05-2010, 07:51 AM
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At this point, I feel a little anxious about having brought up my friend's situation, because I fear that it may have worried you unnecessarily. Again, you're baby is probably just fine; however, please consider writing out your areas of concern so you can discuss them with your pediatrician at your baby's 9-month check-up. Call ahead and tell the office staff that you need a little extra time for your appointment, so you won't feel rushed.

In the meantime, make sure that you are giving your baby lots of tummy time. Let her sit on your lap and pull to standing if she's able. Bounce her on your knees. Encourage her by holding an enticing object just out of her reach. Give lots of encouragement and praise. Consider avoiding the infant seat and/or bouncer for the time being except when absolutely necessary.

It's likely that your baby is just on the brink of taking off and a little encouragement from you is all she needs, but trust your instincts. If you really believe there is a problem, by all means, seek out a professional opinion.
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Old 03-05-2010, 08:01 AM
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Much as I would love to say to you to just listen to your pediatrician, that she's fine, averages are just averages etc, I heard the same things when my DD was that age. When we finally got her to early intervention at 15 mos (the doctor still insisted she was fine) they were appalled that we had not at least been referred to early intervention (EI)!
From your screen name I'm going to assume you're in New York, here's a link
Step 1: Referral

Your child should at least be rolling over, even if slightly delayed, and probably sitting unsupported for short times at least. IF there is a problem the sooner you get help, Physical and occupational therapy, the better. These services are usually free, or on a sliding scale and are made very affordable. Usually a pediatrician refers one to EI, but you, as a parent, can self refer as well. Make a call, it can't hurt anything to have someone knowledgeable do an objective assessment of your child.
Please don't wait til the 9 mo check up, I kept waiting for the next check up and hoped the Dr would see something off, and he kept saying she was fine.
Edited to add that my DD was NOT fine, in any sense of the word, and starting EI earlier may have made a big difference in her life, maybe not, but of course we'll never know.

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Old 03-05-2010, 08:10 AM
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^^ I agree.....please keep a journal. Document things your baby does and document things that you're trying to get her to do, without success. Make sure to address these things when you go to the pedicatricians office. I can not stress to you enough, the importance of a second opinion, in the medical filed though. I am IN the medical field.....well do I know how important it is to have a doctor who will refer you to specialists, a ped who will admit that there are things he/she may not be seeing. However, your child may be just fine. As for having a big bottom.....hehe.....hey, it's possible. They have to get a whole lot more 'FLIP' in their move in order to get past the hump. LOL What does it look like when she's trying to roll over? Does it look like her bottom is stopping her? You're there...use your investigative mind.....you're going to need it and all of the information you gather, when you go to her next visit. Play with her, make her exercise.....massage both feet at one time (it helps to build more neuronal connections in the brain if you do both sides at once)...and good luck, don't worry.....
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