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View Poll Results: Does Homosexuality still bother you?
Yes 25 18.38%
No 111 81.62%
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Old 03-13-2010, 12:19 AM
 
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Please don't lump me in with the religious right. They have their opinions and I have mine. I don't tell others what they should/should not do, or how to/not to live. I say that I would not want this lifestyle for my children. That's the way I feel. It should not be considered criminal to feel that way. I am not forcing anyone else to agree with me either.
I wasn't lumping you in with the religious right. I asked how you formed the opinion that sexual orientation is a "choice".

I have found that the whole "choice" topic mostly originated with the propaganda of the religious right. They have put so much time energy and money into vilifying gay people that many people end up believing their propaganda even if they are not "religious right" themselves. It's just that pervasive.

You are certainly entitled to your opinion and no-one is forcing you to agree either.

However, wouldn't you want to be well-informed about sexual orientation if one of your children came to you and told you they were gay?

Saying to your gay child that you are disappointed by their "choice" would show your child that you don't really know them at all, and that they are not important enough to you for you to bother educating yourself about their sexual orientation and what it means.

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Old 03-13-2010, 06:59 AM
 
Location: Tampa baby!!
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Where I am from we teach our children right saying that homosexuality is not OK.

What do you think?
Who are you to say what is right or wrong for someone else?
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Old 03-13-2010, 09:18 AM
 
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Here is a thought. I think that I know why many religious types are repelled by the thought that homosexuality is not a choice. If it is true (which I believe) that means that God would have made a mistake which contradicts the fact that he is infalliable. This in turn undermines many things that the Bible teaches....and this cannot occur in their eyes.

I personally believe that God created heter/homosexual people in the same light but for different reasons only known to him. Have you ever took time to think that if homosexuals never existed how overpopulated the world would be today?

I believe that in most cases homosexuality is not a choice and there are children that know that they are attracted to the same sex BEFORE anyone can put it in their minds that it is abnormal/normal. Just to quote chris rock "they just did not have anybody to be gay with"
Now, saying that I also realize that there are people for whatever reason enjoy the sexual experience with a same sex partner. There are others who had a very bad experience with the opposite sex and were comforted by a gay person and eventually fell in love with that person. This scenario usually happens with women in cases of incest, child abuse, and rape.
Religious movements are threatened by homosexuality because they grow more through procreation than evangelism. It's basic sociology.
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Old 03-13-2010, 04:10 PM
 
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Sexuality is only one part of a person. When you look at the person as a whole, it's easier to keep sexual orientation in it's place; just one aspect.

If you don't agree with that one aspect, but love the person for all he or she has to offer and who that person is, it's easier to keep everything in perspective.
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Old 03-13-2010, 09:37 PM
 
Location: South FL
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How is it hateful? I see no reason to keep homosexuals around. The point of being with a person is to make children you can't do that when its 2 men or 2 women. So therefore they are a drain on society.Everyone should contribute something to society.
So many gay couples adopt those poor unwanted children and give them a nice home and a warm loving environment. How is that not contributing to society?
What about all other contributions that gay people made towards fashion, architecture, arts, music, media?
Calling them a drain to society is not only harsh, it's completely inaccurate. What drains our society is those kind of bigotted views.
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Old 03-13-2010, 10:47 PM
 
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No, homosexuality, asexuality, bisexuality nor heterosexuality bothers me...its your daughter's life, and if she's happy, then you should be as well..

However, I also wholeheartedly believe that sexuality (heterosexuality, asexuality, bisexuality and homosexuality alike) is chosen, or at bare minimum, the results of outside influences...which to me, makes the whole concept of sexuality fluid in and of itself. I dont believe that awareness of sexuality is something that children are born with...I think thats the point of puberty..(ie..fluidity.)

Just remember -- people change...and nothing is set in stone, sexuality or otherwise..so if several years from now you still find yourself at odds with her lifestyle then there is still the possibility that she may have a change of heart.

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Old 03-14-2010, 01:00 AM
 
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No, homosexuality, asexuality, bisexuality nor heterosexuality bothers me...its your daughter's life, and if she's happy, then you should be as well..

However, I also wholeheartedly believe that sexuality (heterosexuality, asexuality, bisexuality and homosexuality alike) is chosen, or at bare minimum, the results of outside influences...which to me, makes the whole concept of sexuality fluid in and of itself. I dont believe that awareness of sexuality is something that children are born with...I think thats the point of puberty..(ie..fluidity.)

Just remember -- people change...and nothing is set in stone, sexuality or otherwise..so if several years from now you still find yourself at odds with her lifestyle then there is still the possibility that she may have a change of heart.
I believe you are confusing sexuality and sexual behavior, with sexual orientation. However I am curious about how you formed your opinion that sexual orientation is a choice.
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Old 03-14-2010, 07:29 AM
 
Location: Pensacola, FL
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Thank you everyone for your replies. I have found a PFLAG chapter in my city. Though I still think homosexuality is wrong, we will try our best to get over this devastating situation with our daughter.
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Old 03-14-2010, 08:22 AM
 
Location: The end of the road Alaska
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I'm curious what you all think about this article in National Geographic. If this is happening to frogs, is it happening to people?

Hermaphrodite Frogs Caused By Popular Weed Killer?
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Old 03-14-2010, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Eastern time zone
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As a parent, I am still getting over the fact that my daughter is a homosexual. It's been quite rough.

So does homosexuality still bother you?

Where I am from we teach our children right saying that homosexuality is not OK.

What do you think?


I think it sounds like you're saying she's behaving badly, and if she'd just listened to you when she was growing up she wouldn't be in this mess. In which case I feel kind of bad for her.

Edited to add: but I expect PFLAG will help. Points for making the effort.

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