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Old 05-07-2010, 01:55 PM
 
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Yes, I assume
Do you know the student's history? From the sounds of it, no.

Assuming an IED is fairly judgemental & if anything, if you are concerned about it enough that you are concerned about the other children in the class, you either speak to the teacher or parent.
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Old 05-07-2010, 02:08 PM
 
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Do you know the student's history? From the sounds of it, no.

Assuming an IED is fairly judgemental & if anything, if you are concerned about it enough that you are concerned about the other children in the class, you either speak to the teacher or parent.
no, it is based on my observation of the fact that he has a special teacher who spends extra time with him. That has to be some kind of special program. I don't see how he could get that without an IEP.
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Old 05-07-2010, 04:53 PM
 
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no, it is based on my observation of the fact that he has a special teacher who spends extra time with him. That has to be some kind of special program. I don't see how he could get that without an IEP.
OK, and?

Imagine if someone started a thread about your child?

Again, if you care so much, go to the proper sources of there is concern for safety.

My son is in a peer intergrated preschool & was screened to be a role model for those with emotional/developmental challenges. It was a hard decision initially. Now, I'd never look back; he has learned & grown so much. We have had an issue w/ one boy who but it is always taken care of professionally and quickly. I did not specifically mention the boy to the teacher, but the situation, & she knew right away.

A boy who has DS in my son's class has an aide & I have seen her act very quickly, firmly, yet compassionately when he has gotten aggressive.

I see nothing wrong w/ a parent speaking to a teacher if they have legitimate concerns over safety & legitimate sources. I say this from a parental & teacher side of view as I have done both.
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Old 05-07-2010, 05:01 PM
 
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I guess I just thought someone on here might have some insight into why he seems to be coddled instead of disciplined.
I offered some insight based on my experience with the austic child I had in my classroom. When dealing with my student, I needed to intervene in a POSITIVE manner in order to accomplish any results. If I simply got angry and punished the child it would accomplish nothing.

It seems that you feel the child is not changing his negative behavior because the teachers are "coddling" him. Since you obviously know nothing about what the child's issues are, you know nothing about how to handle him. Maybe that is the best way to deal with the child. Imagine how he would be if they stuck him in a time out every time he had a problem.

The school administration obviously feels the child should be in that class. How would you feel if that was your child and some nosy mother was asking all kinds of questions about your child when it is clearly none of their business?
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Old 05-07-2010, 06:15 PM
 
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OK, and?

Imagine if someone started a thread about your child?

Again, if you care so much, go to the proper sources of there is concern for safety.

My son is in a peer intergrated preschool & was screened to be a role model for those with emotional/developmental challenges. It was a hard decision initially. Now, I'd never look back; he has learned & grown so much. We have had an issue w/ one boy who but it is always taken care of professionally and quickly. I did not specifically mention the boy to the teacher, but the situation, & she knew right away.

A boy who has DS in my son's class has an aide & I have seen her act very quickly, firmly, yet compassionately when he has gotten aggressive.

I see nothing wrong w/ a parent speaking to a teacher if they have legitimate concerns over safety & legitimate sources. I say this from a parental & teacher side of view as I have done both.
And nothing. what are you reading into my posts? Imagining someone starting a thread about my child... a) how would I know? b) why is it a bad thing that I'm trying to gain some knowledge about my child's classmate?

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I offered some insight based on my experience with the austic child I had in my classroom. When dealing with my student, I needed to intervene in a POSITIVE manner in order to accomplish any results. If I simply got angry and punished the child it would accomplish nothing.

It seems that you feel the child is not changing his negative behavior because the teachers are "coddling" him. Since you obviously know nothing about what the child's issues are, you know nothing about how to handle him. Maybe that is the best way to deal with the child. Imagine how he would be if they stuck him in a time out every time he had a problem.

The school administration obviously feels the child should be in that class. How would you feel if that was your child and some nosy mother was asking all kinds of questions about your child when it is clearly none of their business?
yes you did. Thank you for that.

I never said the school is doing anything wrong. I'm just curious what makes this kid tick. People ask ALL kinds of questions of a much more disturbing nature than mine. This is an anonymous forum. The whole point is to discuss topics with other parents without having to worry about people knowing who the thread is about. I'm not some nosey mother asking all kinds of questions. If I were I'd be at the school asking what's up with this kid. I'm not.

Now that he actually punched another kid, I think I have a legitimate concern. I could probably talk to the teacher now. I probably won't though, since it wasn't my kid who got hit.


You all don't need to be so defensive. If you have or know a kid like this, you probably have the insight I was looking for. Sorry if I offended anyone. I think if it were my kid, I might be happy someone was trying to learn something about him.
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