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But what is so wrong with them sitting down to eat a meal together and just them? Why do the parents have to sit there at the table with them?
Because it gives them an opportunity to get to know who their child is with. Same on your side. You should get the opportunity to learn about this boy.
Doesn't mean they should either....but I was in no hurry to get my kids married off and into a submissive relationship with a husband...but that's just me.
And atleast I know she would be more focused on the kid than on other things....and yes I complain about my mom but were you a perfect teenager who never complained?
Your maturity really shines through. Should you even be considering having kids? Remember, you're not mature enough to date.
You think your mom would be focused on the kid? She's not all that focused on the 2 she has now. And that's based on what you tell us. Really, why would you even assume she would watch your kid? You'd probably do better depending on your mother-in-law.
And why are you calling yourself a teenager? And who said I was perfect?
And the remark about being a guy... your maturity isn't showing again.
Actually, you can not include us all in that blanket statement.
I read the whole story and give realistic advice to the situation to FIX the problem.
You know I complain about my mom putting super strict rules on me and instead of you saying, oh you should be listening to your mother and dealing with whatever rules she gives you....you should use your brain, sit back and see that giving a bed time to a 19/20 year old is asinine and give some good advice on how I could have sat my mom down and had and ADULT conversation with her to come to a compromise.
Child, you really need to point me to where I said all this. I never did. I said that YOU are not all that that you can change your mom, that where your mom is concerned, you're powerless. If mom doesn't want to sit down and discuss things with you, all the advice in the world isn't going to force her to. You really need to get over that mommy complex you have over your mom, you're not raising her. Now act mature and start making plans to move out so you don't have to deal with her. In the meantime, your only option is to suck it up.
I personally feel, and adopted this attitude from my parents, that if a kid is old enough and responsible enough to have a job, they should be able to have dates or outings with their friends. I had a job when I was fourteen and my parents allowed me to to go on dates, as long as we were dropped off and picked up by either my or his parents, they knew where we were, and curfews were adhered to. You have to allow a kid some freedoms if they are responsible and well behaved, or they will feel like you don't trust them very much.
Doesn't mean they should either....but I was in no hurry to get my kids married off and into a submissive relationship with a husband...but that's just me.
I agree! I have a 14 yr old dd who is still deciding which college she'll attend, not what "boy" she'll marry. I'd much rather see her more focused on a career at this age.
Doesn't mean they should either....but I was in no hurry to get my kids married off and into a submissive relationship with a husband...but that's just me.
It's a pretty big leap from going out for pizza or a movie to marriage. I suppose you sent yours to an all girl school too, just so they didn't look submissively at a boy. Be sure to keep them out of the mall until they're grown. There are boys in malls. And church; you know what they say about those church boys... . Talk about submissive. I heard those church boys like submissive girls.
Good grief, you can't keep girls and boys away from each other. And all you nay sayers seem to think they are going to have sex because they are in the same room together.
Get your minds out of the gutter.
Last edited by NoExcuses; 06-06-2010 at 01:48 PM..
Good grief, you can't keep girls and boys away from each other. And all you nay sayers seem to think they are going to have sex because they are in the same room together.
Get your minds out of the gutter.
This is so funny because I went to a Catholic coed high school where we were taught that sex before marriage is bad and condoms will send you to hell. I can think of 12 girls from my HS class who where moms before 20. Now I go to a VERY liberal college and the only person I know who even got pregnant is the woman in my class who is a "later in life" student with a husband.
The more you push them apart the more they want sex. When I was 18 I had my first boyfriend and after a few months my mom came to me and said "I think its time for you to go on the pill" I was 18 and haden't even had sex yet. However my mom wasnt ready to be a grandma and wanted to make sure I was being smart. I think her for that every day.
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