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Old 01-18-2016, 01:35 PM
 
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Take pictures of the mess, pack it up and store it. Strip the room, only gets bed, dresser and clothing...he doesn't get electronics, toys, phone, computer access only for school work.

He can earn it back, chore by chore...or not at all. If Dad has a problem, he can pay for shipping, and keep the stuff it at his house. Dad doesn't get to dictate rules to you. Tell him to discuss your child's behavior and well being calmly and rationally...or hang up.

Get yourself and your other kids into counseling. Be very straight about the crap the kid is pulling, and the Dad. Sounds like Dad is using this kid as a pawn...totally screws a kid up. Your house your rules.

If the father takes Mom to court, go willingly...it is a wonderful opportunity for the court to set Dad and the kid straight. Start gathering evidence of this fathers neglect and emotional abuse towards the Mom.

Mom has full custody...she gets to call the shots.

And, don't be afraid to call the cops if the kid threatens or gets physical. With a kid like this you have to do everything you threaten.

In fact, because he is already in trouble and threatening mom and sister it should be off to live with Dad, send only what his father has given to him.

or the juvenile system as last resort.

If he is savable juvenile might scare him into straightening up.

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Old 01-18-2016, 01:50 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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I live in Pennslyvaina sorry I can't spell I'm 14 anyway does my mom have a right to take away my IPhone even if I pay for my data plan by my self and paid for the phone by my self.
Yes.
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Old 01-18-2016, 02:00 PM
 
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Also, just want to point out that by property here, I mean things like old clothes, magazines, toys. Things like that. My advise to her was also to tell the father to keep stuff at his house, not hers, if they don't want it to be removed. I would think that would eliminate most legal worries.

I wrote this before reading your reply okpondlady. I'm with you on this one. She is trying to make sure her property and the life of herself and her daughter are respected. She is trying to get her house and life in order and demand that he respect that if he is around.
Seriously..she has no legal worries, no judge is gonna side against a mother trying to parent this unruly child..judge will take the father to task.
She sends what father bought back to father, soon as he pays shipping.
In fact, getting this father and this boy in front of a judge might be a good thing.
Is father in same city?
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Old 01-18-2016, 02:10 PM
 
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I hate to break it to you, but minors can own property. Look up the Uniform Transfers to Minors Act.

The act protects gifts given to minors. While it's generally money or investments, the law could be applied to any gifts.

Your wife might take them from your son, but she would have to preserve the property to give back to the son. If she doesn't, the ex could take her to court.

Even if the ex doesn't win in court, you and your wife would have hefty legal fees fighting it.

I personally would NOT take property given by another parent. I morally could not do that.
Sorry...I think you are confusing rights with privileges. Sure Auntie bought Jr. the gadget, but Mom gets to set the rules. If gadget is interfering with school or sleep, it gets confiscated until Jr. follows Mom's rules.

Seriously, parents cannot give away their authority...I don't care where the gadget comes from.
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Old 03-08-2016, 08:43 PM
 
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My son brought home a laptop that belong to his uncle on his mom's side with pornography on it still. His uncle was incarcerated Oct 2015 for traveling to meet a minor . My son's grandmother and mother both know he asked to use it knowing who it belong to previously. What if we anything can i do.
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Old 03-08-2016, 08:50 PM
 
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My son brought home a laptop that belong to his uncle on his mom's side with pornography on it still. His uncle was incarcerated Oct 2015 for traveling to meet a minor . My son's grandmother and mother both know he asked to use it knowing who it belong to previously. What if we anything can i do.
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Old 03-08-2016, 09:49 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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My son brought home a laptop that belong to his uncle on his mom's side with pornography on it still. His uncle was incarcerated Oct 2015 for traveling to meet a minor . My son's grandmother and mother both know he asked to use it knowing who it belong to previously. What if we anything can i do.

How about taking the computer away from him (assuming that he is a minor).

And remember, that if the computer has child pornography on it your son may be joining his uncle in prison.
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Old 09-15-2016, 06:56 PM
 
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Personally, I´m technically still a minor, but I have a few jobs and if I buy something with my parents'money, I don believe they have the right to do much other than not allow it in the house.
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Old 09-21-2016, 01:26 PM
 
Location: Huntsville
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Personally, I´m technically still a minor, but I have a few jobs and if I buy something with my parents'money, I don believe they have the right to do much other than not allow it in the house.


At the risk of responding to a troll I'll bite.


When you are a minor that lives under the legal guardianship of an adult YOU have no rights in regards to what they can or cannot take away from you. If you bought an item with their money, it is their item. When you are of legal age to support yourself and move out on your own then you have rights. Until then, your parent can do whatever they want (legally of course... we're not talking abuse, etc..) with said items.


You have no legal rights until 18 years old except for the right of basic needs to be provided by the parent. If they aren't, the state will provide them.


Basic needs are defined as:


Food
Water
Shelter
Clothing
Sanitation
Education
Healthcare
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Old 09-21-2016, 01:29 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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At the risk of responding to a troll I'll bite.
No need to, really, as the person you are responding to posted this over SIX YEARS ago, and has not been on this site since 05-09-2011.
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