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Originally Posted by Hopes
This part of your post speaks volumes.
If I were you, I would back off visitation. Let him come back to you when he's ready. Your involvement is providing a mutual enemy for them.
Allow them to live together for a while---without interaction from you. Then see how much the son and father get along.
As long as you stay actively in the middle, they will fuel their hateful personalities towards you, not each other.
In the meantime, take the time to overcome your negative feelings about your son so you have a chance at forming a meaningful relationship with him when he's older.
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I agree with this. I'd like to add that time is not all that it will take to overcome negative feelings. The boy needs to respect his mother. He needs to apologize and atone for his behavior, and MEAN it. I would not allow him to contact me until he does so. If he wants to be nasty and rude, he can do it at his father's house and stay there. I know how hard this would be, but if you can't make people respect you - remove the lack of respect from your personal space. No one will take you seriously if you don't. And if your kids won't, why would anyone else?
I would have to decontaminate my son every time he came back from seeing his father. But he knew, 150%, that I would not tolerate being disrespected and that his father's behavior was not acceptable in my home.