Isn't this disgusting behavior for a parent? (appropriate, children, married)

[kutra11]

I was out at an amusement park with my 4-yr old, standing in the queue for a roller coaster ride. The man (father, I guess) in front of me had a 3-yr old with him. Suddenly, this man turns to me, points at an Asian woman and asks me, "Do you know her?" "No," I replied, taken a little aback. He exclaimed, "Wow, isn't she hot? Real sexy!". I just smiled back at him (politely) and ignored him by continuing to talk to my son.

What was this idiot thinking trying to talk about women with a total stranger? Sure, even I ogle at women, but I draw the line when it comes to making comments about them. And never would I do that in front of small children.

Regards,
K

[JEB77]

Originally Posted by kutra11

I was out at an amusement park with my 4-yr old, standing in the queue for a roller coaster ride. The man (father, I guess) in front of me had a 3-yr old with him. Suddenly, this man turns to me, points at an Asian woman and asks me, "Do you know her?" "No," I replied, taken a little aback. He exclaimed, "Wow, isn't she hot? Real sexy!". I just smiled back at him (politely) and ignored him by continuing to talk to my son.

What was this idiot thinking trying to talk about women with a total stranger? Sure, even I ogle at women, but I draw the line when it comes to making comments about them. And never would I do that in front of small children.

Regards,
K

Yes, it's inappropriate behavior for an adult or a parent. But you do learn things about human behavior at local amusement parks that you might not pick up at the opera.

[eyeball]

Well? Was she hot?

Kidding aside, just because you and I might have one particular sense of decorum doesn't mean we have to project our own uptight values on others. Did the guy really do anything wrong by trying to share a little male camaraderie with you? While his familiarity and borish behavior may have been inappropriate, you being made uncomfortable does not mean that he did something "disgusting," as you put it.

And by the way, why would you be "taken a little aback" by someone asking if you knew someone else? Were you taken aback because a stranger actually spoke to you?

[perries]

If you did know her, you would be sure to warn her off such a boorish loser, I am sure. ;D

[kutra11]

Originally Posted by eyeball

Well? Was she hot?

Kidding aside, just because you and I might have one particular sense of decorum doesn't mean we have to project our own uptight values on others.

Exactly! That's what he did!. If one has a particular sense of decorum, you shouldn't impose this on others by trying to indulge them in a conversation. You want to ogle, go ahead, just don't ask me (a total stranger) to join you or respond.

Originally Posted by eyeball

Did the guy really do anything wrong by trying to share a little male camaraderie with you? While his familiarity and borish behavior may have been inappropriate, you being made uncomfortable does not mean that he did something "disgusting," as you put it.

Are you really serious? Is male camaraderie all about discussing "hot" women? In the circles/communities that I hang about, people have a certain sense of what's acceptable and what's not acceptable to discuss until you know the person well. In the numerous kiddie parties/places that I have taken my son, till date, I've never had any parent talk about "hotness of women"...however, there are myriad other topics we've discussed such as sports, politics, weather, etc. So very clearly, people like him are the minority. And because I understand people have different values and you can't avoid them in a public setting, I ignored him rather than impose my views on him.

Originally Posted by eyeball

And by the way, why would you be "taken a little aback" by someone asking if you knew someone else? Were you taken aback because a stranger actually spoke to you?

No, I was taken aback because I do not expect "Do you know her" as an ice breaker. It's also possible that I wasn't really taken aback, but that sentiment fell in place after what ensued next.

Thanks for your view point. But you just cannot convince me that what he did was acceptable when I had a 4-yr old with me.

Regards,
K

[Ashburnite]

In the stranger's defense, maybe he was drunk. ;-0

[arlingtonChris]

Let's face it. 99% of heterosexual men, even married men with children, "notice" attractive women from time to time. This guy's mistake was that he actually spoke about this. I think it's too harsh to call this disgusting behavior though. Maybe just inappropriate. To be honest I find it a little refreshing when in our uptight politically correct world someone without a verbal filter lets loose a wildly inappropriate comment.

[Tone509]

As this isn't a NOVA-specific topic, I'm moving it to the Relationships forum.

[smokemaster]

The term "hot" is widely used, and is totally complimentary. It could easily be used instead of the word "sexy." I've seen "hot or not" sections in the (family) newspaper. What he did has been going on since the beginning of time. I'm sure your kid has witnessed much harsher language on the Head Start Bus. I've heard 3rd graders use the F word. This is another case of people needing to lighten up.

[TempesT68]

At that age they don't know what he's talking about. Besides, who doesn't love asian girls?