York, PA: gay friendly?? (Harrisburg, Honesdale: fit in, health insurance, neighborhood)

[iowacity girl]

I am a third year medical student at the University of Iowa in Iowa City and looking into different residency programs in Family Medicine. I have a partner of 8 years and we are expecting our first child any day now. My partner will not return to work after the baby is born, which therefore necessitates that the program I choose to attend offers same-sex and adopted child health insurance coverage. It appears that the York program does offer these health benefits which I tend to use a a barometer for the overall tolerance of an area. However after reading some of the threads pertaining to race relations and diversity in the York area, I am really concerned! I am afraid that it would not be a place that my partner and I could meet other lesbian or gay couples and that our child may be the only one in class with two mommies coming to the parent-teacher conference. Please give us any information that you have on being out lesbians with a child and living in York. Thanks for your help as we attempt to make this important decision!

Sincerely,
iowacity girl

[newjerseybt]

The physical world is where you will not escape the truth.

[Suzer]

How is a comment like that helpful, newjerseybt?

[trlstreet]

I currently reside in the York area. York is a very conservative place that still holds onto some pretty old-fashioned ideals. This can be both good and bad (in my opinion). While people here are generally friendly and willing to help a person in need, there is definitely an undertone of prejudice in the community (not in everyone, but in a good number of people I interact with). I guess it is the culture shock for me of coming from a large, liberal-minded city to a smaller town. I think Harrisburg is a more progressive-minded city/area you may want to check out (half hour away).

[MermanMike]

Originally Posted by newjerseybt

The physical world is where you will not escape the truth.

I don't understand what that is supposed to mean.


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But, to Iowacitygirl--I am not familiar with York in particular, but I live within about an hour. The tone tends toward homophobic in most local areas. There is a definite generation gap, with younger people being more accepting. This is probably true of almost anywhere. Also, as in most places, you will find a lot of intelligent people that haven't digested the prejudiced garbage that society tries to feed them. I wouldn't worry about finding friends and a community, but you will sometimes have to put up with ignorance and people talking about your family in a gossipy kind of way. Of course, everyone, no matter who they are, deals with that kind of stuff sometimes.

[newmarlig]

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[itchysteeler]

Originally Posted by newjerseybt

The physical world is where you will not escape the truth.

go back to the stone age loser, gay people deserve every right that we straight people do, late for an pro-abortion rally are ya

[itchysteeler]

Originally Posted by newjerseybt

The physical world is where you will not escape the truth.

wait, I know why you are like this, Honesdale is the reason. I grew up in Mt.Cobb and wondered about you backwater hillbillies out there near the lake.

[SARGGON]

FRom what I her Milford PA is very gay friendly. you'll fit in there.

[newjerseybt]

Originally Posted by Suzer

How is a comment like that helpful, newjerseybt?

I found the internet to be a place where people can pretend to be anybody they want to be. When you eventually relocate, you will experience the truth regarding hypocrisy. Your so called "righteous neighbors" cannot "log off".

If I were in your position, I would not place too much weight on the internet. In the real world, all it takes is one bad neighbor and the pain begins. Making the decision yourself may be a better choice.

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