[theshane9]

This might sound stupid, but i desperatly need to find someone. This person is my girl friends father...I know alot of people want to find their father, it is quite a commen thing. I will update this thread abit later when i find all the details...name location etc. I just want to get some idea of what the chances are of finding some-one, we are from the UK and he is from another country...Like i said i will find out all the details. Thankyou.

[germanrose20]

well, if you know the country he lives in, it could still be hard to find him. any details such as phone number, address or even last know addresss, general area wherehe is living or might live, any name changes, jobs that he has worked at or currently works at, etc....
Any tiny detail no matter how insignificant can be of great importance put together with all the other details.
Hopefully you will find him..

[MKWife]

THESHANE9-

There is a thread here for PEOPLEFINDER,once you get the information you might could try that thread,there are alot of helpful volunteers that will help look up the information for you!

Good Luck!

[theshane9]

Thankyou for your responses so far, you may not agree with me saying this, but just to let you know, the situation is my girl friend is the result of a one night stand, you may or may not think thats my busness to tell, but im trying to explain that this will be difficult..as there is porbly not alot known about him, How would I go about asking her mother for information (im not too sure but i dont think her mother really likes talking about it), my girl friend nows nothing about him, shes never met him, and hes never met her i dont think, im not even sure he knows he has a daughter...i dont want her knowing im am trying to find him either...I think he may live in Guyana...Thankyou

[nutleynut]

What is your reason for searching for him? Why aren't you telling her? Something doesn't seem right/legit here.

[theshane9]

Originally Posted by nutleynut

What is your reason for searching for him? Why aren't you telling her? Something doesn't seem right/legit here.

Whats my reason for searching him? because shes never met him, she wish she had or could, Imagine not seeing your father, not knowing who he is, etc...im not telling her because i would like it to be a suprise if i am successful, and the chances are im not going to be, so why would i even tell her what i am doing, when she is very sensitve about it any ways, and then not succeed??? basicly gettin her hopes up, of course she would know theres not a very big chance of it hapening, but she'l still have an exitment in her hoping he can be, then for that to be shattered...no i dont think so, id much rather do it with out her knowing, that way she cant be hurt and if i can find him, it will be an amzaing suprise....dont you think?

[stephanie312]

I understand where you're coming from but I think she should know you're at least trying for her. Tell her straight out, honey i'm attempting to find your father but as you know it's going to be a one in a million shot if i do happen to succeed so i don't want you getting your hopes up because i can't stand to see you be crushed. then if you find him somehow don't tell her you found him just take her to meet him. that way it's a still a surprise.

[Susan13202]

I agree with Stephanie. I think it is a very sweet thought. But it is her search to make when she is ready to make it, and you can be there to support her and help her. You suggest that both her mother and she are sensitive to this issue. Maybe they are just not ready yet. When she is, she'll take that first step.
Once she is ready, we are going to need a full name and the country he is in to help her with her search. Since usually many people share the same name, we would need more details like his age, if he was in the service, which branch, etc. The more we know about him, the more we can help her. Many people have come here and found their family members (although we tend to be better at helping find people in the USA then other countries).
I think Stephanie is right about surprising her by taking her to meet him, too, if that's the way it turns out. That would be a wonderful gift you could give her.