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You work 3 jobs and practically skip lunch each day, home-cooked dinners every night of the week and you save everywhere you know how. You are slowky winding your way out of school debt
Then you get invited to a destination wedding that will cost you and your significant other a good 10 Grand and it will take you many months to recover this money and so they say,
"You better come"
"But we don't have the funds to do this trip"
"Yes you do, you can charge it to credit card and just pay min payments"
Is this required?
"Having no money means you maxed out all your credit cards. If you can get a credit line of $10,000, you have $10,000 in savings.
A simple "Sorry, we can't afford to attend" should suffice. If it doesn't, then they are not friends at all and you shouldn't give them a second thought. It is beyond thoughtless to plan an expensive destination wedding and expect everyone to go into debt just to attend.
This is such a bs thread. No "friend" would demand such a thing. A card and a $20 gift card to bed bath and beyond should suffice. If this is truly happening, it's time to find new friends. You should never feel a great burden because two other people decided to get married.
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Originally Posted by sayulita
A simple "Sorry, we can't afford to attend" should suffice. If it doesn't, then they are not friends at all and you shouldn't give them a second thought. It is beyond thoughtless to plan an expensive destination wedding and expect everyone to go into debt just to attend.
Seriously, just politely decline the invitation. You don't even have to mention the cost, because it's absolutely none of their business. I really think "destination" weddings are the ultimate selfish indulgence personally. I will never understand them at all and would not attend even if money was not an issue.
I always thought the point of "destination weddings" was to discourage people from coming (because you want a small wedding, but at the same time can't "not" invite some people).
Just say you can't make it. You don't even need to say you can't afford it, that's nobody's business. Just RSVP, "no." Send a small gift if you like. And like others said, if these "friends" give you a hard time, they are hardly friends.
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